raisingself's review
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.0
- Parent loss
- Mental illness/Mood disorder
- S. Assault
- Child abuse
- Depictions of class and inequality
- Violence
- Infertility
All of the things are in this book but oddly it was not triggering. It was a slow burn storytelling of young people I'll equipped for life finding and loving each other. It is not a traditional romance novel, in that it feels too realistic. The main characters too flawed. The realities of life too difficult.
This a book that people will with like or hate. It slightly reminds me of a better version of Normal People by Sally Rooney, which I disliked but this for all of its intensity, sadness and slow inwinding, I did enjoy. The book ends with a dash of tender hoepfulness, which I appreciate.
Graphic: Alcoholism and Death of parent
Moderate: Sexual violence, Mental illness, Alcohol, Child abuse, Abandonment, Classism, Bullying, Addiction, Cursing, Toxic relationship, Suicide, Terminal illness, Rape, Pregnancy, and Murder
Minor: Drug use, Toxic friendship, Pedophilia, Infidelity, Self harm, Pandemic/Epidemic, and Infertility
cayv97's review against another edition
3.75
Moderate: Murder, Suicide, Sexual assault, Alcohol, and Rape
korinnagarcia's review
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.0
Moderate: Alcoholism, Death of parent, Adult/minor relationship, Murder, Suicide, Child abuse, Cancer, Sexual assault, Grief, Rape, and Mental illness
lanaprice's review
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
2.5
There is so much trauma. So much trauma. I argue that it’s too much for one story. It’s masquerading as a “romance,” but the characters all have huge battles they are dealing with.
This is not the type story for someone who wants to escape. The relationship between the main characters is toxic and codependent. It is good to see that they grow from it as they age, but many of their characteristics makes them hard to like when they are younger.
If you are a fan of Colleen Hoover, then you might enjoy this book—without problematic practice of supporting Colleen Hoover.
Graphic: Toxic relationship, Murder, Death, Violence, and Death of parent
Moderate: Drug abuse, Suicide, and Alcoholism
Minor: Adult/minor relationship, Sexual harassment, and Rape
_treatyoshelves_'s review against another edition
4.0
Moderate: Grief, Death, and Death of parent
Minor: Rape and Child abuse
livinthebubble's review against another edition
2.0
Plot
Going into this, this is what I understood of the plot:
- a guy and a girl meet in uni, fall in love
- something happens, and they don't talk for years
- fast forward, they rekindle and happy ending for them
Spoiler
Where in the blurb would I ever guess that they a) are married and b) have kids? Nowhere, besties.There are heavy topics thrown in (solely for impact imo). TW: alcoholism, assault, self-harm, terminal illness, child sexual abuse, sexual assault, death of a parent, infertility and cheating. As I said before, it sounded like a light-hearted story, but boy was I surprised when she out of nowhere describe in detail how she'd self-harm.
Characters
The story spans 20 odd years of the main characters' lives, but they meet when they are 18/19. I was that age not long ago (3/4 years ago to be exact), and I
Everything Benjamin did, she overthought to the extreme. All the problems the two had were because of her. Any one of them, you can trace back to her.
Spoiler
Although he's at fault, I felt like Clara played a huge part in him going to jail and she didn't even help him or defend him.Benjamin, although sometimes badly, tried his best to communicate. He told her he was going to go home for a while, and since this is literally the year I was born, texting wasn't as popular as nowadays. Why does she assume the worst and cheat on him? No
The fact that she could be married to Thom, which in my opinion also deserved better, for a decade and yet always think of what could be with Benjamin. This woman had cheated on every man she dated during this book, whether emotionally or physically. For someone who was traumatized by her ex-Daniel cheating, she really followed in his footsteps.
Romance
For a book advertised as a romance, there was literally none to be found. The main characters had no chemistry, they kept saying they were soulmates yada yada, but they just felt like dumb naive teenagers in their first relationship (been there done that folks).
Ending
The ending is random and I hate open endings.
Spoiler
In the end, they are friends although I think I can infer that they'll date somehow,Overall, not for me, at all. Is there anything I liked? Well, Benjamin was wholesome but that's about it. I wouldn't recommend but if you enjoy books spanning most of the characters' lives and open endings, this might be for you.
This ARC was provided by the publisher via Netgalley in exchange for an honest review.
Graphic: Terminal illness, Death of parent, Infertility, Self harm, Alcoholism, Cancer, Child abuse, Rape, Suicide attempt, Suicidal thoughts, and Sexual assault