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Eine Frage der Chemie by Bonnie Garmus

9 reviews

_dina's review against another edition

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challenging emotional informative inspiring sad medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

An enjoyable read ! I LOVED the dog’s pov it brought something so fun and charming to the story. 
I will say it is sometimes a bit heavy handed and unrealistic for the time period but both dramatic. 

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kyrstin_p1989's review against another edition

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emotional funny hopeful inspiring reflective slow-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

3.5

While I loved the characters and the premise of a strong, female lead in the 1950’s demanding to be seen and heard as an expert in her field, I thought the beginning of the book was a bit difficult to get into. The writing style wasn’t appealing to me at first and took some getting used to but by the end of the book it felt more natural. The realities of becoming a scientist during a time period when women were only considered homemakers was an important and interesting story to learn more about. 

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skylarkblue1's review against another edition

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This was a slog to read through. I did not give a crap about any characters and apparently all feminist fiction is now just "look! this woman's life sucks! she's so smart but she's just constantly explicitly abused and shit all the time!". The blurb is complete false advertising, I got to the 50% mark and the only mention of the cooking show was a paragraph to 2 at the very very start. TV industry has been mentioned a single time since. The story so far has just been the main character being abused, screamed at and being depressed with a shitty husband.

There's just constant POV changes to everyone and everything - including the goddamn dog. It's not split up by chapters, it'd just be one paragraph is from one character, the next from someone completely different. I could not tell you what year any of the events that happened are from. I could not even really tell you all the different characters and who they where as people because honestly most of them didn't feel like people. The guys where mainly just misogynistic pricks, though some liked rowing! but that was about it for them. The women where mainly just "I'm being looked down on and abused but I'm secretly smart!" or just, idk, like not wanting to challenge the status quo so they where even flatter than that?

I'm reading this for a book club but even though there's still multiple days before the meeting I just don't care enough to read more. I don't even care about the cooking show element which was super interesting to me when I first heard about it. 

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bbmaan's review against another edition

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challenging dark emotional informative sad medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.5


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strugglecity's review against another edition

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sad medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? No
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

2.25


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lmurpho's review against another edition

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dark medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? No
  • Loveable characters? No
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

1.0

One that definitely does not live up to the hype...
[Warning for the jump-scare rape scene in chapter 3.]

While this book is advertised as a funny & inspiring feminist story, I don’t see it as any of those things. Putting aside the many inconsistencies and inaccuracies with how scientists are portrayed (I have a lot more to say about that), the main character’s personality is stunted from the start with very little character development described. 

Half the time EZ is made out to be a matter-of-fact, stoic person seemingly incapable of understanding basic social interactions, and then other times she's portrayed to be fully empathetic and emotionally soft. The author attempts to smooth the rough edges of Zott’s personality but these glimpses of a more emotionally mature adult do not fit the rigid template character of ‘socially-awkward scientist’ the author has lifted from modern media. 

In Elizabeth’s character, the author has done a huge disservice to women in science, both back in the 1950's but also today. Women did exist in science in the 50s; Rosalind Franklin, Gertrude B. Elion, Rita Levi-Montalcini, Barbara McCintock, Dorothy Hodgkin, Irene Joliot-Curie, Rosalyn Yalow, and Gerty Theresa Cori were all award-winning scientists active in the 1950’s and I’m sure would have faced many of the barriers that Elizabeth experienced. However, rather than show the audience that success can be achieved despite the odds, she chose to encapsulate them into a main character that is emotionless, rigid and uninteresting. 

For a supposedly feminist novel (or at least one that wants to celebrate a woman revolting against the role that society has carved for her) this book severely lacks in meaningful female relationships. The interactions between women in this book repeatedly tend towards judgement, shame or pity. It's not just women that seem to suffer the author’s tendency to focus on negative character-traits either, the men in this book have few redeeming qualities. Most of the male characters are either physical, emotional, or sexual abusers. 

I’m petty so here’s a few examples of the inaccuracies/inconsistencies I spotted:
• Lab coats outside the lab are a big no-no in chemistry. Despite this, EZ decides to wear hers out of the lab, getting into her car and going to someone else’s place of work to confront them. 
• It rarely rains in Cambridge, England. I know this from living there for 7 years, but also a quick google comes up with: https://www.yourweather.co.uk/news/trending/where-is-the-driest-place-in-the-uk-weather-climate.html. 
• Nobel prize nomination lists aren’t made public until 100 years after the award. You’d need some very close connections to the Swedish National Academy of Sciences to know if Calvin Evans was nominated for a Nobel.
• Despite being a brilliant scientist who uses logic and reason in every part of her life, she was very surprised to find-out she was pregnant when her co-worker pointed it out as a possible cause of morning sickness. 
• Again, despite being a brilliant scientist, she manages to break her centrifuge with an unbalanced load (this is the first thing you learn when you are shown a centrifuge). 
• Nobody (literally nobody) has ever said 'pass me the sodium chloride'... 

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jaduhluhdabooks's review against another edition

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challenging dark emotional informative inspiring reflective sad tense medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

5.0

Truly exceptional. I felt so empowered and seen reading this book. As an academic, as a Black woman, and as someone who is reaching for some high aspirations in the world, I felt heard and understood. Elizabeth Zott is a chemist, an iconic, well rounded, and powerful chemist. This was a book about pursuit and tenacity and inevitability of resiliency that comes with the life of minority. It was profound in structuring the sexist and patriarchal systems of the 1900s. It was revealing of the quiet and brooding strength of the house wife and mother. It was striking of the pain and the weariness of the unlived reality that many men take for granted of the woman. It was a sobering reminder of just how far we have come and yet so much father we still have yet to go. 

I am grateful for this book and for this story telling. I am proud of who I am and what I desire and believe it. This text grapples with questions I’ve consistently presented myself, especially as a person who believes in God. It’s real. It’s raw. It’s grasping. And I loved every second of it.

I think I would’ve appreciated a tie in of the racism talk angle with an actual person of color experiencing the depth that their intersectionality brings into the academic world and the societal. Other than that, this is a read I would 100% recommend.

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graff_fuller's review against another edition

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challenging emotional funny hopeful informative inspiring lighthearted reflective tense fast-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

This book is NOT going to be for everyone. For those who want to keep the status quo OR those who are male chauvinists. These man babies are going to rail against this book, the upcoming adaptation and we've already seen them hate Brie Larson. Well, they are the minority in this world. Yes, they may still be in positions of power, but they see their time is coming to an end.

This story is hilarious, but it also shows a lot of problems that have been inherited over the years in our society. There has been an unequalness that needs to change. This book/story pushes against the inequalities and the fear that some men have of smart and extraordinary women.

Elizabeth Zott (which will be played by Brie Larson in the upcoming adaptation from AppleTV+) is the protagonist of the story. She's just trying to live her passion of science, and at every crossroad, she's manipulated, exploited, assualted, diminished and dismissed. This will resonate with EVERY woman who has ever lived.

My wife and my two daughters have fought against this injustice in their lives...and I have supported them in every way possible.

I read this book with my wife. Marie would read a chapter out loud, and then I'd read the next chapter out loud...and we've done this the entire day...and it's been an amazing day. We've laughed, we've cried, we've talked about experiences that have been shared in the book and we have been talking about it to our friends.

This is a great story. 

Also, in this book...are men that act poorly. Too many examples, honestly...but for accuracy sake...it would've been a lot more (unfortunately). BUT, also...there are good men represented, too. Walter, especially. We loved Walter.

Of course we loved Calvin, but he's too important to talk about here, for we want you to read the book and see his part in the story.

This is fiction, for there wasn't a real Elizabeth Zott, but there are SO many examples of women doing the work, and men taking the credit. Shame. Shame. How could they live with themselves. 

Lastly, in the #MeToo era, and the exploitation of women in the workforce being exposed (represented in the movie, She Said, and others), we are hoping that this becomes less and less prevelent. The poll of how many women have been raped or molested is staggering. This has GOT to stop! As a husband and a father, it sickens me...that even one has had this happened to them, but to see the numbers...is revolting.

I see a lot of people reading this book, and it always makes me happy. 

Loved this book and am looking forward to the TV adaptation coming soon on AppltTV+.

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anapthine's review against another edition

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emotional funny hopeful inspiring reflective relaxing medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? No

5.0


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