lakecake's review
4.0
I won a free copy of this book through Goodreads Giveaways.
This is going to require a re-read to really process all of the information in here, but as a person with a 15+ year career in higher education, the main points Freitas lays out in this book resonate. There is a fundamental lack surrounding how we speak to our young people about sex--it starts before they ever step foot on a campus, of course, but it doesn't get any better once they get here and therein lies the problem. The national conversation about sex, consent, hook-ups, parties and drinking needs to change, and the attitudes on campus surrounding student life versus academics need to change as well. There's no way for it but to start trying to make that change, even if you're the only voice on campus doing it. The hope, of course, is that you can convince others to join you, or at the very least support you. I think this book could act as an excellent jumping off point for gaining the type of campus-wide support needed to really implement a program of sex-and-consent education that really allows students to learn about all of the entrenched expectations and baggage they maybe don't even know they're carrying around, and to give them the tools to leave those expectations behind as they see fit.
This is going to require a re-read to really process all of the information in here, but as a person with a 15+ year career in higher education, the main points Freitas lays out in this book resonate. There is a fundamental lack surrounding how we speak to our young people about sex--it starts before they ever step foot on a campus, of course, but it doesn't get any better once they get here and therein lies the problem. The national conversation about sex, consent, hook-ups, parties and drinking needs to change, and the attitudes on campus surrounding student life versus academics need to change as well. There's no way for it but to start trying to make that change, even if you're the only voice on campus doing it. The hope, of course, is that you can convince others to join you, or at the very least support you. I think this book could act as an excellent jumping off point for gaining the type of campus-wide support needed to really implement a program of sex-and-consent education that really allows students to learn about all of the entrenched expectations and baggage they maybe don't even know they're carrying around, and to give them the tools to leave those expectations behind as they see fit.
cmdc325's review
4.0
*GoodReads First Reads*
It was mentioned in this book that this book was not only meant for college students, but also the university administration and faculty. I agree that this is the most impertinent for the people who run the colleges. There have been too many times where the universities would rather protect their establishment or the perpetrators than the victims. I feel like this book really got the the core of why the solutions we have created have not worked, why they aren't working, and some possible ways to start working towards actual useful solutions to the ever growing problem. Everyone must read.
It was mentioned in this book that this book was not only meant for college students, but also the university administration and faculty. I agree that this is the most impertinent for the people who run the colleges. There have been too many times where the universities would rather protect their establishment or the perpetrators than the victims. I feel like this book really got the the core of why the solutions we have created have not worked, why they aren't working, and some possible ways to start working towards actual useful solutions to the ever growing problem. Everyone must read.
maddigrace20's review
informative
slow-paced
4.0
Content Warnings
Graphic: Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Sexual harassment, Sexism, Rape, Physical abuse, Misogyny, and Hate crime
10_4tina's review
4.0
I thought Freitas clearly communicated the challenges surrounding conversation regarding consent and sexual assault on college campuses. The book set the scene for understanding how colleges in America are navigating the issue of consent, explained the beliefs students have learned and inherited regarding gender and sexual ethics, and offered ways colleges can flip these scripts on end and move toward healthy ways of engaging these conversations.
While the prevalence of sexual assault on college campuses and the narratives directing students are certainly concerning, this book communicates in an alarming tone that is not always approachable. This may prove challenging as Freitas hopes this book is read by senior level administrators who do not always value conversations around sex, consent, and hookup culture.
The conversations with students recounted in this book are eye-opening, heart-breaking, and inspiring.
Overall, this book was helpful as I work to provide education surrounding Title IX and empower students to flip the scripts they've inherited regarding topics relating to sexual ethics. I also appreciated the reminder that we can do far more than the minimum legal standards that serve to provide legal protection for the university and too often fail to provide genuine care toward students or rich, formational education.
While the prevalence of sexual assault on college campuses and the narratives directing students are certainly concerning, this book communicates in an alarming tone that is not always approachable. This may prove challenging as Freitas hopes this book is read by senior level administrators who do not always value conversations around sex, consent, and hookup culture.
The conversations with students recounted in this book are eye-opening, heart-breaking, and inspiring.
Overall, this book was helpful as I work to provide education surrounding Title IX and empower students to flip the scripts they've inherited regarding topics relating to sexual ethics. I also appreciated the reminder that we can do far more than the minimum legal standards that serve to provide legal protection for the university and too often fail to provide genuine care toward students or rich, formational education.
leigh_ann_15_deaf's review
4.0
Enlightening statistics and strong call to action. As a graduate student, understanding the culture in which i have immersed myself is not only a weapon to defend myself and others, but also a teaching tool. By pointing out what may be taken for granted as normal behavior or normalized and justified behavior(s), it can create opportunities for others to examine and reflect on the behavior(s).
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