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Behind You Is the Sea by Susan Muaddi Darraj

27 reviews

themoostconfused's review against another edition

dark emotional inspiring reflective sad tense fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

i pre-ordered when i first hear about it and it took about 6 months to eventually end up in my hands. it was worth the wait in every single aspect of it.

i read the entire book within a single day and didn't want it to end. i loved the interwoven paths of the characters and how their lives are connected with each other even in ways they might not even realize themselves.

it touches on the experiences of being an immigrant/a child of immigrants and all the everyday struggles, racism and generational trauma that entails.

the fight for freedom for palestine is on-going and the colonial powers are still not being stopped on a big enough scale. from the river to the sea, palestine will be free.

after reading the lines...

"'you're our rock,' everyone told her, but that reputation did,'t feel like a compliment anymore. it felt like neglect"

...i had to take a quick break because that sums up so many experiences into one and made me feel seen in such a painful but freeing way.

this book is a work of art and i will treasure it forever.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Body shaming, Cancer, Child abuse, Death, Domestic abuse, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Fatphobia, Genocide, Infertility, Infidelity, Mental illness, Misogyny, Physical abuse, Racism, Sexism, Sexual content, Terminal illness, Torture, Toxic relationship, Violence, Xenophobia, Islamophobia, Dementia, Grief, Religious bigotry, Death of parent, Murder, Pregnancy, Abandonment, Alcohol, Colonisation, and Injury/Injury detail

Moderate: Gun violence, Rape, Violence, Abortion, and War

Minor: Torture

serendipitysbooks's review against another edition

emotional reflective medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.25

 Behind You is the Sea is one of those books contributing to the "interconnected short stories or novel" debate. It explores the li Palestinian-American community in Baltimore via eight main charcters from three different families, and canvasses themes like class, work, family, belonging, microaggressions, links to the "home" country, intergenerational trauma, generational divides and more. I thought it was strongly written and very effective. I was quickly drawn in, and the book held my attention throughout. Naturally, different stories/ chapters worked better for me than others. I'm uncertain if it was coincidence, or an effect of their placement after other stories that had perhaps set the scene, introduced characters etc, but the stories I felt were the strongest were the last two in the book, particulalry Worry Beads about the relationship between a woman and her father who was suffering from dementia. The stories about a mother advocating for her young autistic son, and a teen girl struggling with the decision for her theatre club to perform Aladdin were also impactful. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Domestic abuse, Misogyny, Dementia, and Classism

kellyeweber's review against another edition

emotional sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.5

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Cancer, Domestic abuse, and Abortion

Moderate: Drug abuse

kirstym25's review

emotional reflective medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Domestic abuse, Eating disorder, and Dementia

Moderate: Ableism, Misogyny, and Xenophobia

thehomiemona's review

emotional hopeful informative mysterious reflective sad tense medium-paced

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Domestic abuse

Moderate: Abortion, Death of parent, War, and Injury/Injury detail

Minor: Confinement, Miscarriage, and Rape

alexandryareads's review

challenging reflective fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? No

3.5

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Domestic abuse, Mental illness, and Death of parent

Moderate: Sexual content

megansoetaert's review against another edition

emotional fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

I could’ve read whole books about these characters. The stories flow together in a way that doesn’t even make them feel like short stories, showing the interconnectedness of Palestinian American communities. Each story highlights the diversity of Palestinian experiences in the US, while still showing the similarities characters face. 

This was very well done, and i can’t wait to read Darraj’s other books.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Domestic abuse, Misogyny, and Violence

zahrahm's review

challenging dark slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? No
• Loveable characters? No
• Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.0

Largely my impression of the book was confused because the way it was pitched was that there were 3 families who after a specific event are intertwined… that didn’t happen at all. It was more there was 1-2 cameos across each short story. It may be an issue of the marketing but because it didn’t do what it promised I got to the end without realizing, thinking “… what?”
With that said, the short stories themselves tackle themes that are complicated, and there’s an argument that books like these must be written. BUT you must read the content warnings because I got blind-sighted multiple times when I’d suddenly get thrown for a loop with an event; I had to take breaks from the book because of it. I’m not someone who needs to read content warnings usually so this was a shock for me. Not a before-bed read for sure. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Death, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Sexual content, Terminal illness, Toxic relationship, and Death of parent

Moderate: Bullying, Eating disorder, Fatphobia, Infertility, Self harm, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide attempt, and Murder

Minor: Miscarriage and Gaslighting

wanderlust_romance's review against another edition

challenging reflective sad fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? N/A

2.0

Behind You is the Sea is a collection of interconnected short stories that center Palestinian characters. I had high hopes and was excited to see it on the shelves during my last library visit. Alas, it was not my cup of tea. The stories are set in Baltimore, but there is no distinguishing sense of place in these vignettes, nothing that makes you understand what it means to live, work, or grow up there. (The irony of it all was the cover designers note at the end proclaiming how Baltimore itself shined as a character here. WHERE?!) BYITS aimed to do too much and didn't execute on those ideas all that well. These stories touched on weighty subjects such as racism, classism, eating disorders, abortion, family conflicts, femicide, and domestic abuse. The writing style was heavy on the telling as opposed to showing, while also skirting around the issue at center of the story before addressing it with unnatural directness. There was little nuance and very little subtlety, while also not leaving much room for reflection from these characters whose head you've been in throughout the short story. The biggest off-putting aspect though was the cop-aganda in the two stories focusing on Marcus. He's a "good cop" and "overprotective brother" but a "bad son" until he takes his father's body back to Palestine and rushes into marriage (savior complex, much?) with a woman there. It's 2024. Do we need to romanticize police in this day and age? In a city as fraught with racialized and class divisions as Baltimore? Of all the commentary that didn't land...that one fell the most flat.

It was a fast read, which is perhaps the only reason I finished reading rather than quitting midway through.

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Body shaming, Bullying, Domestic abuse, Eating disorder, Fatphobia, Infertility, Miscarriage, Misogyny, Racism, Self harm, Suicide attempt, Death of parent, Pregnancy, Gaslighting, Abandonment, Colonisation, and Classism

juliana_reads's review against another edition

challenging emotional hopeful reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

Wow. A beautiful collection of interconnected short stories. Each one made my heart ache for one reason or another. I think The Hashtag, Gyroscopes, Cleaning Lentils, and Worry Beads were my favorite. In just a few pages, each of these stories somehow felt complete (though I of course wanted more!) which is a testament to the author’s skill. My only challenge was that there were a few time jumps that were tricky to figure out along with the changing POV. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Eating disorder and Colonisation

Moderate: Domestic abuse, Sexism, Violence, Islamophobia, and Death of parent

Minor: Sexual content and Abortion