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Behind You Is the Sea by Susan Muaddi Darraj

18 reviews

themoostconfused's review against another edition

dark emotional inspiring reflective sad tense fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

i pre-ordered when i first hear about it and it took about 6 months to eventually end up in my hands. it was worth the wait in every single aspect of it.

i read the entire book within a single day and didn't want it to end. i loved the interwoven paths of the characters and how their lives are connected with each other even in ways they might not even realize themselves.

it touches on the experiences of being an immigrant/a child of immigrants and all the everyday struggles, racism and generational trauma that entails.

the fight for freedom for palestine is on-going and the colonial powers are still not being stopped on a big enough scale. from the river to the sea, palestine will be free.

after reading the lines...

"'you're our rock,' everyone told her, but that reputation did,'t feel like a compliment anymore. it felt like neglect"

...i had to take a quick break because that sums up so many experiences into one and made me feel seen in such a painful but freeing way.

this book is a work of art and i will treasure it forever.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Body shaming, Cancer, Child abuse, Death, Domestic abuse, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Fatphobia, Genocide, Infertility, Infidelity, Mental illness, Misogyny, Physical abuse, Racism, Sexism, Sexual content, Terminal illness, Torture, Toxic relationship, Violence, Xenophobia, Islamophobia, Dementia, Grief, Religious bigotry, Death of parent, Murder, Pregnancy, Abandonment, Alcohol, Colonisation, and Injury/Injury detail

Moderate: Gun violence, Rape, Violence, Abortion, and War

Minor: Torture

serendipitysbooks's review against another edition

emotional reflective medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.25

 Behind You is the Sea is one of those books contributing to the "interconnected short stories or novel" debate. It explores the li Palestinian-American community in Baltimore via eight main charcters from three different families, and canvasses themes like class, work, family, belonging, microaggressions, links to the "home" country, intergenerational trauma, generational divides and more. I thought it was strongly written and very effective. I was quickly drawn in, and the book held my attention throughout. Naturally, different stories/ chapters worked better for me than others. I'm uncertain if it was coincidence, or an effect of their placement after other stories that had perhaps set the scene, introduced characters etc, but the stories I felt were the strongest were the last two in the book, particulalry Worry Beads about the relationship between a woman and her father who was suffering from dementia. The stories about a mother advocating for her young autistic son, and a teen girl struggling with the decision for her theatre club to perform Aladdin were also impactful. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Domestic abuse, Misogyny, Dementia, and Classism

kerriski's review against another edition

dark emotional inspiring reflective fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? No

3.25

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Body shaming, Death, Eating disorder, Fatphobia, Gun violence, Misogyny, Physical abuse, Sexual violence, Terminal illness, Dementia, Death of parent, Colonisation, and War

Minor: Mental illness, Police brutality, Medical content, Grief, Pregnancy, and Classism

richelleski's review against another edition

emotional funny tense fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Dementia and Abandonment

Moderate: Eating disorder and Mental illness

kirstym25's review

emotional reflective medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Domestic abuse, Eating disorder, and Dementia

Moderate: Ableism, Misogyny, and Xenophobia

ukponge's review against another edition

challenging emotional reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? No

4.75

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Death, Domestic abuse, Gun violence, Rape, Sexual assault, Violence, Dementia, Grief, Suicide attempt, Death of parent, Pregnancy, and Colonisation

shay43geek's review against another edition

emotional reflective medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Body shaming, Domestic abuse, Eating disorder, Dementia, and Death of parent

Moderate: Emotional abuse, Misogyny, and Toxic relationship

themadbloodstone's review against another edition

emotional reflective slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

One of the most moving stories I have ever read in my lifetime. All the characters were real people — the way they talked, the way they acted, the way they thought — it was as if Darraj had eavesdropped and typed passing conversations while writing. I normally am not a fan of multiple POVs and narratives. I did get occasionally confused when one chapter was written in first-person when the next was in third, but it wasn’t enough of a problem to deter me from enjoying this book. And Darraj intertwines the different narratives flawlessly and smoothly, like a late spring stream flowing by. The chapters were pretty much their own characters as well, with different moods, themes, and messages. I could enjoy each story as a standalone and as an important part of a grander plot. They were all written with the most care. “The Hastag” left me on the edge of my seat; the majority of the time I read “Behind You is the Sea”, I rooted for Maysoon; and “Worry Beads” and “Escorting the Body” had me in tears, especially the latter. Seeing the country of Palestine and its people depicted as the kind, life-loving people they are and their perseverance despite the fascist occupation and the discrimination they face gave me hope for the future. Even if this book is a work of fiction, it was still reality.
Behind You is the Sea is definitely going to be one of those future classics the next generation will read in school and learn from, like The House on Mango Street or Wiesel’s Night. It is such a beautiful book and deserves all the recognition it gets.

From the river to the sea, Palestine will be free 🍉

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Death, Domestic abuse, Eating disorder, Xenophobia, and Dementia

Moderate: Misogyny and Death of parent

Minor: Cancer and Sexual violence

florecita_lectora's review

challenging emotional reflective medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.25

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Domestic abuse and Dementia

Moderate: Emotional abuse, Misogyny, Sexual content, Grief, and Death of parent

yourbookishbff's review against another edition

emotional sad tense fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

3.0

While I really appreciated the concept for this narrative - a loosely connected, multi-POV weaving of slice-of-life vignettes for Palestinians living in diaspora in Baltimore, Maryland - it ultimately felt like it never exceeded the sum of its parts. I'm actually confused after reading an interview with the author that suggests the Marcus POV was her starting point. Marcus's POV didn't feel nearly as compelling as several of the others, and it romanticized policing in a way that didn't make sense for the rest of the narrative and feels tonally confusing. The prose is compelling, and I love the focus on stand-alone scenes (there are several short stories in here that were truly beautiful). The author absolutely shows more than she tells here, and it made this feel fast-paced and immersive. Marcus's police POVs were jarring, though, and I'm not sure I fully understand the author's intention with this character and perspective. 

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Death, Domestic abuse, Eating disorder, Fatphobia, Physical abuse, Racism, Sexual content, Suicidal thoughts, Violence, Xenophobia, Dementia, Grief, Suicide attempt, Death of parent, Pregnancy, and War

Minor: Child death, Confinement, and Sexual violence