katlynann's review

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informative slow-paced

3.0

I agree with what I’ve seen others say, at times, this is pretty outdated! Sexuality is viewed as an impulsive choice, there are a lot of gender role moments, and some misogyny! This made me trust the book a little less, but I do understand that this was published before I was even alive. Things have changed! Nothing was outright hateful, more of like an underlying belief that sometimes confused me.

That being said, there were moments of this book where I felt read to filth. Like someone had looked inside my soul and written down things I have refused to talk about. It was crazy! Things I didn’t know how to even articulate were there. There’s a lot of beautiful advice and quotes - I think it’s definitely worth the read either way!

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challenging emotional hopeful informative inspiring reflective fast-paced

4.0


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hopeful informative fast-paced

4.0

I feel the need to start this review by clarifying that my parents are NOT and never have been alcoholics! 

This book was recommended to me as helpful in generally understanding the impact of traumatic/dysfunctional situations on children, and how it affects their thoughts, feelings and decisions as they get older. In that context, I think everyone could benefit from reading this book (or at least the first two sections), because even those without difficult childhoods will likely interact with at LEAST one person in their lives who is struggling with the effects of a difficult childhood. The first two sections do a good job of laying out the kinds of struggles involved, what's unusually difficult, and why. 

I don't agree with everything about where the author is coming from, but the first two sections are nearly five stars for me, being very practical and mostly just descriptive of how things are. The third section, on how to improve in each of these areas has some helpful, practical advice, but also requires more discernment and thinking through which parts are just opinions that might have better approaches. The fourth section is less generally applicable, as it's parenting advice, and is again a mix of practical advice and just opinion.

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