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alreadyemily's review against another edition
5.0
A book every parent should give a listen to, even if you don't ultimately choose to implement every single concept.
avesmaria's review against another edition
4.0
Readers of “Peaceful Parent, Happy Child” and “How to Talk so Kids will Listen” will find a lot of familiar territory in this book as far as acknowledging emotions, conflict resolution, and enabling confident, self-assured kids.
The parts I found the most helpful were how to coach kids sentence by sentence through peer conflict and asserting one’s desires while still being kind. I think sometimes people assume kids figure out interpersonal relationships on their own but at least in my preschooler’s case, it really helps him to have an adult model phrases like, “I’d like to play alone please” and “can I play with you?” and “may I have a turn with that when you are done?” and “yes you can have this when I am finished.” In particular the author makes a really great argument against “timed” sharing and turns, saying that allowing kids to relinquish toys of their own volition, on their own time, teaches them more about generosity and noticing the needs of their peers than a grownup sitting with a stopwatch saying “ok, it’s X’s turn!” every five minutes.
Like all parenting books with “renegade” advice, I suspect some of this may be met with resistance while practicing in public but I’m looking forward to trying out some of these techniques with my kid.
The parts I found the most helpful were how to coach kids sentence by sentence through peer conflict and asserting one’s desires while still being kind. I think sometimes people assume kids figure out interpersonal relationships on their own but at least in my preschooler’s case, it really helps him to have an adult model phrases like, “I’d like to play alone please” and “can I play with you?” and “may I have a turn with that when you are done?” and “yes you can have this when I am finished.” In particular the author makes a really great argument against “timed” sharing and turns, saying that allowing kids to relinquish toys of their own volition, on their own time, teaches them more about generosity and noticing the needs of their peers than a grownup sitting with a stopwatch saying “ok, it’s X’s turn!” every five minutes.
Like all parenting books with “renegade” advice, I suspect some of this may be met with resistance while practicing in public but I’m looking forward to trying out some of these techniques with my kid.
traceyelder's review against another edition
3.0
3.5. Some rules I will incorporate into our home (or have already begun to and this provides good backup as to why), other stuff doesn't feel appropriate for our family. Interesting food for thought, some of which will be revisited over the coming years.
freckleduck's review against another edition
5.0
I thoroughly loved this book. I appreciate how it empowers kids and me as a parent to trust myself, set reasonable limits, and love my kids where they are. I also feel like the style really helps me as a parent. Additionally I was impressed with the comprehensive nature of this book. It touched on topics many other parenting books didn’t in a practical and thoughtful way.
bluestjuice's review against another edition
5.0
Kind of awesome. I love most of the arguments laid out in these chapters, and am somewhat persuaded even of a few which initially I would have disagreed with. I especially appreciate how each chapter lays out specific suggestions of things to say in lieu of less helpful statements, and the overall philosophy and realism of the writing is very refreshing. I'm probably going to add this to my personal library.
erin_n_sullivan's review against another edition
4.0
Lots of really great ideas. I loved her thoughts about conflicts as opportunities for learning rather than something to avoid. I also loved the ideas of long turns, play fighting, as well as many other thoughts. While there were many great points made on gender norms and roles, the way it was discussed was slightly outdated at times. Keep in mind that this book is over 10 years old; take tips on gender with a grain of salt. One positive within the topic of gender, however, is how unbiased she remained on the value of the gender/sexual identity a child may assume as they get older. Instead of saying “your boy might wear dresses and that’s okay because it doesn’t matter what his sexual or gender identity is,” she says that the type of play your child engages in now won’t impact who they really are, which is so true!! She did a good job of staying within the scope of the book, discussing the meaning of exploratory play, and not preaching too much, which is important to get buy in from the readers who need to hear this stuff most. Would recommend!!
ris_stitches's review against another edition
5.0
I keep marking this book read and it keeps coming back.
Great book!
Great book!
snpefk's review against another edition
5.0
Как пишут на заборах: «came for porn, stayed for music».
По совету открыл прочитать о выставление личных границ, а то в жизни впадаю в крайности (резкость методов отстаивания пусть будет упражнением для читателя). В результате познал дзен общения с людьми от 2 до 95 лет. Мысль — радикальная: у детей и взрослых одинаковая потребность в уважении, безопасности и комфорте. Что работает на дошкольнике с такой же эффективностью прокатят и на взрослом лбе [citation needed], а психологической гимнастики от исполнителя требуют меньше. Хэштег Андрей Бреслав был прав.
Алсо, лет через 8-10, наверно, перечитаю по прямому назначению
По совету открыл прочитать о выставление личных границ, а то в жизни впадаю в крайности (резкость методов отстаивания пусть будет упражнением для читателя). В результате познал дзен общения с людьми от 2 до 95 лет. Мысль — радикальная: у детей и взрослых одинаковая потребность в уважении, безопасности и комфорте. Что работает на дошкольнике с такой же эффективностью прокатят и на взрослом лбе [citation needed], а психологической гимнастики от исполнителя требуют меньше. Хэштег Андрей Бреслав был прав.
Алсо, лет через 8-10, наверно, перечитаю по прямому назначению