aled's review against another edition
3.0
Graphic: Lesbophobia, Hate crime, Injury/injury detail, Dementia, Death, and Homophobia
samothraces's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.25
Graphic: Homophobia, Violence, Physical abuse, Hate crime, and Dementia
internationalreads's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.0
Graphic: Dementia, Grief, Emotional abuse, Homophobia, Violence, Death, Hate crime, and Lesbophobia
Moderate: Injury/injury detail
Minor: Death of parent
sketchydelusion's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
3.75
Graphic: Homophobia, Violence, Dementia, Lesbophobia, and Medical content
Moderate: Medical content and Terminal illness
Minor: Excrement, Forced institutionalization, Death, and Vomit
supernuba's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.25
This book was truly an emotional experience. The LGBTQIA+ community and East Asian culture are rarely seen intersecting, and that is partly why 'Concerning My Daughter' was such a special read. Written in the perspective of a homophobic older mother, though of course does not align with my personal values, was incredibly interesting and one that is not generally covered. To see the inner turmoil of a mother who simultaneously loves her child, yet hates her for who she is, was quite honestly heart-wrenching. It's easy to assume that someone who opposes their child's sexuality would simply be a fistful of blind rage and ignorance, however Kim Hye-jin illuminated that this isn't always the case. The maternal need, especially that of Asian heritage where the parental role is heavily emphasised as a duty in life, to ensure the security of their child's future was what fuelled the mother's disapproval. Not wanting her daughter to live a life of struggle, a life similar to hers or the elderly patient she cares for. And for that reason, I found myself thinking many a time that should I ever find myself in the terrifying world of motherhood, I ought to return to this book.
Homophobia aside, I saw many similarities in thinking between Green's mother and my own; between her and the other women in my family. East and South Asian morals and perspectives do not seem to differ much; hearing concerns about reputation and 'what would people say?' hit pretty close to home. Being so rooted in cultural values is a common cause of conflict between Asian generations, and to see this being represented was truly touching. It is certainly an important conversation that needs to be had more often; how traditions being challenged is sometimes necessary to progress, rather than refusing to let go and in turn building walls against those who agree and those who do not.
Moderate: Homophobia
Minor: Dementia and Medical content
elletudie's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
3.75
Graphic: Homophobia
Moderate: Dementia, Death, and Excrement
Minor: Injury/injury detail
hippiequeen's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.75
Graphic: Dementia, Homophobia, Injury/injury detail, and Lesbophobia
kirstym25's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
1.5
Graphic: Excrement, Dementia, Homophobia, and Death
readingthroughinfinity's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
This was a really reflective novel about growing old, queer relationships, and the idea of what a family 'should' look like. There were some incredibly sad moments as the main character reflects on the declining health of a woman she looks after at a care home and how nobody comes to visit her. There were also frustrating moments when the mc refused to accept that her daughter's girlfriend, Lane, was actually her girlfriend and couldn't bring herself to be polite to her (despite Lane being nothing but kind to the mother). The story gives us a lot to think about in terms of life decisions, caring for others, and societal and organisational prejudices.
Full RTC closer to publication date.
Moderate: Dementia, Excrement, Violence, Lesbophobia, Injury/injury detail, and Homophobia
veronikav's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0
Spoiler
Žena, kterou kdysi oslavoval svět, která skončí v příšerném ústavu, kde jí předávkovávají sedativy.Graphic: Dementia and Homophobia
Moderate: Death and Violence