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Down the Drain by Julia Fox

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I feel like I break out into a cold sweat every time I listen to this. Might finish at a later time, just not the vibe right now.

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As far as memoirs go, this is book is just a telling of events without an ounce of introspection on Julia Fox' as a person. This is the first book I stopped reading this year. 

I admit that I don't know anything about her, and I've only heard her name once or twice. but even 70% into the book didn't give me a speck of who she is. There's no introspection that could explain her choices and actions. So, as a reader, I can only see her as a person who has a poor upbringing brought upon by neglectful parents, and so, she went through a lot in life. 

That's my whole takeaway from this memoir, that growing up with bad people around you, especially neglectful and abusive parents play a significant role in shaping and molding your personhood. In Julia's case, she lived a thousand lives surrounded by all sorts of bad influence. 

I had highlighted so many bad and terrible moments inflicted by her parents, friends and even herself in red that it's concerning. I was alarmed by how much she went through. But without introspection, she comes across poorly from my perspective. I don't care for the cruel and terrible people that were introduced because I don't need to justify their actions. But for a memoir, she leaves no explanation for her own decisions and choices which lead to bad influences in return. 

It was always, "I had sex with...", "I did drugs...", "I went to...", "I did..." without giving any reason. When the book did, it's a therapist diagnosing her as bipolar. But I think that makes for a poor justification for her. To me, without any reason outside her diagnosis, she doesn't hold herself accountable. Therefore, it appears like she's okay and entitled to being mean and cruel and a bad influence on others as well. 

So, this is not a memoir. This is just a telling of events.

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A Note: I have decided that I shall not give star reviews to memoirs anymore. 

SHES SOOO JULIA!! Jesus christ what a fuckING woman!!! Also maybe my favorite last line of a book ever? 

“And now, everyone wears latex”


But for the love of god do not read this before checking TW. And not just mine bcs i did not get them all. 

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Shocking from the first page! Heartbreaking and sometimes hard to believe, I found myself wondering if what I was reading had actually happened MANY times throughout the book cause it's just so insane and mind-blowing. But I guess it's part of the "charm" of this book. Definitely addictive!

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Julia Fox, they could never make me hate you. Truly just documentation of someone being failed by every single adult in their life their entire upbringing and also every single man. Every man mentioned in this memoir should be on a list somewhere, and Fox is far too forgiving of them, although I get that's part of her healing journey. Wasn't her dad dating one of her teenage friends? Girl, don't leave your baby with him!!! Is it to late too have both of her parents sent to jail for child abuse?? I'm happy Fox managed to find some measure of success because the odds were so stacked against her. The fact that she's even alive is impressive on its own. Occasionally this teeters on "not like other girls," which is annoying, although in Fox's case it's undeniably probably true. I hope she lives a happy life away from men. Also, name some more names! 

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julia's life is quite literally unfathomable. the idea that she's alive today after all of this astounds me. and for her to be reduced to nothing more than trendsetter hardly encompasses who she is as a person and creative force. it's genuinely hard to believe all of this could be true and for her to be so well adjusted now; especially unbelievable that she remembers so many of these convos and dialogues with this much clarity after that many narcotics. i have no doubt that she's filled in the gaps with approximations and paraphrasing—none of which i hold against her. her story is fraught from the start with drugs, domestic violence, sexual exploitation, entrapment, manic depressive spirals, and death. i'd advise any reader to read acomprehensive trigger warning list before going into this one.

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I didn't know really anything about Julia fox beyond the fact that she exists before listening to this book. I picked it up entirely based on recommendations. Fox has had an eventful, traumatic life that makes me desperately hope that she is seeing a therapist to help her process everything that happened to her and to process and understand her actions and the consequences she suffered for them.

The writing fell a bit flat for me in that she gives a very as-it-happened with very little reflection about it now that she has grown. Given the recency of some of the events, however, there may not have been enough time for her to process it yet. This really prevented me from being able to enjoy this memoir fully, especially since I have read some really thoughtful and introspective memoirs in the past couple of years.

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