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rpcroke's review against another edition
2.0
Quite the book this is. The main thesis of the book is that we should be measured about certain attributes of potential partners and it describes, in brash terms, how to truly discover these attributes and what they really mean for our relationships. Sounds great.
Problem is the writing is awful and confusing. The author(s) try to be funny and cheeky but end up not being clear about what is good advice and what is sarcastic or satirical. I assume the goal was to make it "accessible" and that their writing voice would be friendly and not as clinical as these books sometimes are; but the result is a book that is brash, condescending, confusing, wayward, culturally bias, and useless. For example, at the end of each chapter, there are quizzes where you rank your own disposition towards a personality characteristic. The "wrong" results opens you up to an extraordinarily flippant and mean take on who you are and what you should expect out of life. Also, is there any science to back any of this up? It seems like the conclusions are based on one man's anecdotal evidence. As expert as he may be, he is human and suffers from his own biases.
That being said, I think there is actual good advice living in this book. There were nuggets in here that made me reevaluate my own behaviors. I liked that they talked about going against prevailing wisdom when it comes to communication and having a sense of humor. And that it's okay to slow down and to take a more nuanced view of dating and relationships.
Problem is the writing is awful and confusing. The author(s) try to be funny and cheeky but end up not being clear about what is good advice and what is sarcastic or satirical. I assume the goal was to make it "accessible" and that their writing voice would be friendly and not as clinical as these books sometimes are; but the result is a book that is brash, condescending, confusing, wayward, culturally bias, and useless. For example, at the end of each chapter, there are quizzes where you rank your own disposition towards a personality characteristic. The "wrong" results opens you up to an extraordinarily flippant and mean take on who you are and what you should expect out of life. Also, is there any science to back any of this up? It seems like the conclusions are based on one man's anecdotal evidence. As expert as he may be, he is human and suffers from his own biases.
That being said, I think there is actual good advice living in this book. There were nuggets in here that made me reevaluate my own behaviors. I liked that they talked about going against prevailing wisdom when it comes to communication and having a sense of humor. And that it's okay to slow down and to take a more nuanced view of dating and relationships.
jkl85's review against another edition
2.0
This seemed like an appropriately titled and themed book for February and where I am in life. While it did offer some practical and solid advice, overall I was underwhelmed by the book.
karlmarxsbimboy's review against another edition
4.0
definitely written by white privileged people but once you get through that it’s a great tool book
lingfish7's review against another edition
5.0
This book was extremely pragmatic, ridiculously humor-filled, and brought to light a lot of valid and wise points to my life when it comes to romance. I thoroughly enjoyed every page while simultaneously benefiting from the sound advice. I highly recommend to everyone.
elehuiliztli's review against another edition
3.0
It was pretty good but the writing style a bit snarky. Sometimes I found it amusing but other times I wasn't sure if it was sarcasm and that's confusing. There's a lot of helpful information and advice which seems like it should be common sense but it's not.
shaniquekee's review against another edition
4.0
This wasn't quite what I expected, and I liked that about it. The author doesn't take himself too seriously, but also gives solid advice and questions to consider. I really liked the format with the scenarios, questions, quizzes, and truth or bullshit for each topic.
shelbyroo's review against another edition
2.0
I *loved* the authors' previous book. Their approach was a perfect blend of exceptionally practical insights and a "busting your chops because we love you" sense of humor. Here, it feels like they ran out of content and decided to fill the rest in with fluff snark. The book got tiring to read, as the attitude overshadowed helpful insights. Feels like the authors gave a bit too much attention in coming off as edgy that they lost sight of why the first book was such a success.
aeoist's review against another edition
1.0
Yuck. I thought this would be more like [b:It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken: The Smart Girl's Break-Up Buddy|33353|It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken The Smart Girl's Break-Up Buddy|Greg Behrendt|https://images.gr-assets.com/books/1388290263s/33353.jpg|577082] with a combination of wit and humanism with some good advice thrown it. This was not that. This book is flippant, materialistic, superficial and mainly Yuck. I wouldn't want to be the person they write about, either the good or bad versions.