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Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic by Esther Perel

mandalikescats's review

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I blame Nora. Since hearing Esther Perel on Nora’s podcast I’ve been reading and listening to everything I run across. Where Do We Begin is my fav.

_huuuuulia_'s review

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5.0

I haven't interacted with anything this woman creates without learning a great deal. She's well researched, compassionate and curious.

calstar's review

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3.0

Super interesting book, an easy read and definitely worthwhile for anyone in a long-term relationship.

lbsipes's review

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5.0

This book fundamentally changed the way I view every relationship in my life (romantic, platonic, familial, everything). Esther is wise and is a great writer, she balances personal stories and lessons with actual science and research well. The book never feels clinical but I took notes on it as if it were a text book in some chapters

aa2q7's review

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3.0

Heard about this book on a podcast + found it really interesting. Would recommend probably for those already in long-term (5+ years?) relationships.

sweetcaramellace's review

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4.0

Very good on understanding how to manage a long term relationship and the different factors that cause issues within these types of relationships.

cardigoth's review

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4.0

Listened to as audio. Interesting case studies. Esther is an engaging narrator.

holdensc65's review

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3.0

I liked some aspects of this book, but didn't think it proposed anything truly groundbreaking. I like the aspects of incorporating the third into a relationship to protect one's individual sexuality in a relationship. I also was surprised to find how many ways I unconsciously apply Puritan and patriarchal mindsets to my view of sex and talking about sex/relationships. In particular, I thought it was interesting how across different cultures, parents are not only more upfront with their children about the fact that they have sex, but that it is potentially a good and healthy thing for a child to know that their parents are having sex. All that being said, I felt that a lot of her recommendations were short sighted and didn't have long term benefit (e.g. not having a couple touch each other for weeks on end to increase feelings of passion and desire). Overall, I thought that Perel offers several thought provoking ideas, but fell short of my hopes for changing my perspective.

claudia4650's review

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informative reflective medium-paced

3.75

isabellathegood's review

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informative medium-paced

3.0