sadcinnamonroll's review against another edition
4.0
Davidson gives a very comprehensive overview of what goes into the decision-making about having children or not. The book's diverse points of view and non-gendered language make things accessible regardless of gender identity or sexuality. I do wish there was a bit more representation, but overall the other does a wonderful job giving space to all kinds of people. This book is part history lesson, sex ed, and compassionate lessons into parenthood. I definitely recommend this book regardless of where you are in life or your decision-making process in regard to raising children. There is no right or wrong answer here... just a well-rounded guide to help you through the questions and uncertainty that you may have.
prideandjoybooks's review against another edition
4.0
I love reading books that are unlike anything I've read before - and So When Are You Having Kids is definitely different, in a good way! Thank you NetGalley for the ARC!
While the content was sometimes overwhelming (not because of the book itself, but because personal reflection and family planning are generally a lot to think about), I really appreciate the topics covered. As a queer woman, I felt both seen and informed while reading this book. There was a lot that I liked (see below) and I would definitely recommend this book to folks in my life, regardless of identity. I do think there are some opportunities for improvement, but since the book hasn't been published yet and I'm not sure what will make it into the final copy, I will only share the positives for now:
What I liked about So When Are You Having Kids:
-Consistent queer, trans, and nonbinary rep
-Intersectionality of content/stories shared: race, class, gender, orientation (including ace/poly folks, which is rare), disability, religion
-The spotlight on the USA's history of eugenics and sterilization laws
-Naming the taboo - including that some folks regret having kids
-Inclusive language (i.e. birthing person, chestfeeding)
-The child-first lens to adopting/fostering, centering the story of those with that lived childhood experience
-The spotlight on how folks who do not want to be pregnant/be a parent are often dismissed
-Endometriosis rep
-Attachment style breakdown
-Normalizing experiencing and recovering from grief (in a variety of family planning situations)
-The oh so relatable, yet complex title
While the content was sometimes overwhelming (not because of the book itself, but because personal reflection and family planning are generally a lot to think about), I really appreciate the topics covered. As a queer woman, I felt both seen and informed while reading this book. There was a lot that I liked (see below) and I would definitely recommend this book to folks in my life, regardless of identity. I do think there are some opportunities for improvement, but since the book hasn't been published yet and I'm not sure what will make it into the final copy, I will only share the positives for now:
What I liked about So When Are You Having Kids:
-Consistent queer, trans, and nonbinary rep
-Intersectionality of content/stories shared: race, class, gender, orientation (including ace/poly folks, which is rare), disability, religion
-The spotlight on the USA's history of eugenics and sterilization laws
-Naming the taboo - including that some folks regret having kids
-Inclusive language (i.e. birthing person, chestfeeding)
-The child-first lens to adopting/fostering, centering the story of those with that lived childhood experience
-The spotlight on how folks who do not want to be pregnant/be a parent are often dismissed
-Endometriosis rep
-Attachment style breakdown
-Normalizing experiencing and recovering from grief (in a variety of family planning situations)
-The oh so relatable, yet complex title