Reviews with content warning for Outing - Queerly Beloved

I rather hated this book. I don’t think that is the book’s fault though. This was sold to me as a romance, and while I think it technically qualifies for the genre, the romance is such a tiny portion of this book. Despite the characters all being mid/late 20’s this is a coming of age book way more than a romance. And a coming of age story filled with uniquely queer trauma I was entirely unprepared to read. The book is well written and interesting cover to cover, but if you are looking for a happy queer romance this isn’t the book for you. There is an incredibly satisfying happily ever after, but the queer trauma it takes to reach that point is a lot.

Sometimes she felt guilty for staying closeted at the bakery, both because she was pretending to be someone she wasn’t and because she was allowing her colleagues’ homophobia to go unchecked. (6)

This book is in a way a love story to Tusla. Tulsa has never been on my radar as a place with lots of cool stuff or somewhere I wanted to visit, but this book genuinely made me want to go. As a southerner along the Arkansas river the depiction of Tulsa’s queer community in the book felt so authentically familiar to me. That sense of small city tight knit southern queer community added a whole other layer to my new Tulsa appreciation. The way Tulsa and the character’s love of Tulsa shines in this book is one of it’s biggest strengths.

She picked apart each outfit in the mirror, trying to guess what kind of girl Charley might like. … Something simple would have to work until she figured out Charley’s type. (65)

The queer trauma in this book is overwhelming. Add to that the interpersonal conflict Amy experiences with her best friend in the book and this book felt like a chore to finish rather than an entertaining pleasure. While everything in this book ends happy Amy and her best friend Joel have a falling out in the book. Not only was that falling out painfully emotional, but felt horribly unrealistic for decade long best friends to literally not talk for months, rather than any kind of conflict resolution. Ultimately just not the read for me.

Amy worked so hard to always be positive and helpful, to make the day a little brighter for everyone she encountered. Joel and Damien were some of the only people around whom she’d felt like she could drop the act. Did that mean the true Amy was negative and draining to her loved ones? (279)

Book is oddly pro-oil/pro-fracking which felt weird for such an otherwise conscious queer book.

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lighthearted slow-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? No
Loveable characters? It's complicated
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

2.5

I think this is one of those books that could be really meaningful to someone who related more to some of the aspects of the setting, but I didn’t get enough of the characters I did like and far too much of the MC.

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mlindsay27's review

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I found this book very boring. It's described as being a romcom but the love interest has only been it for maybe 5% of what I did read. It also stereotypes the gay male characters as the "gay best friends" and stereotypes the love interest as a lesbian who has short hair and wears suits. and gives the message that someone NEEDS come out in order to be considered valid in the LGBTQ+ community. The book mentions that it takes place in 2013 but then references things that weren't common then (introducing yourself using pronouns). The one plus side to the physical copy of the book is that it has a recipe for cupcakes at the back.

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funny hopeful informative lighthearted reflective tense medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? It's complicated
Loveable characters? It's complicated
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.25

I’ll admit that I’m not the biggest romance reader, but I’m trying to mix it in occasionally. I work as a chef and the fact that this book is so focused on food was a big draw I convincing me to give it a try!

I’m not sure where exactly to start this particular review because this book was quite a bit different than I imagined. I expected a fluffy queer romance, but the romance was a very small part of the actual plot. The majority of the book is focused on Amy’s semi-closetedness and her struggles with being authentic to herself and to the larger queer community. That’s not necessarily a bad thing, just not what I was expecting.

As for the romance, it felt a bit generic. I mean there were parts of it that were cute, but we never learn much about Charley, the love interest. Also, so many of their interactions are awkward that you start to wonder where the chemistry is. Eventually, it does have that sweet ending though. Also, kind of annoyed that the very few sex scenes included were brief and fade to black. I don’t want smut necessarily, but it felt a little YA in terms of sex.

I will say there was also quite a disconnect in the timeline versus the dialogue. This book is supposed to be set in 2013 before gay marriage was legalized in the USA…but a lot of the dialogue reads as very now. For example, all of the characters introduce themselves with pronouns which I’m all for…but I don’t remember anyone doing that prior to a year or two ago. In fact, I still barely here it today.

That being said, I did find myself laughing at several points throughout the book. There were some generally funny points.

I also love how much food and food description was a part of this book! The cakes and pastries sounded genuinely amazing and a couple recipes were included at the end of the book! I’m looking forward to trying them.

And I did love the diversity of representation in this book even if it wasn’t quite as diverse as it could’ve been. I know that’s confusing. Let me explain. The author did a great job with LGBTQIA diversity as ther are characters of varying sexualities and genders throughout this book. That said, it wasn’t very racially or ethnically diverse. I suppose we can attribute some of that to the story being set in Oklahoma…but it’s a weak excuse. After making such an effort to be inclusive, I wish she’d gone just a bit further.

Was this the best queer romance I’ve ever read? No. Is it an entertaining enough, light read? Yes. I think it would be good for a day by the pool or beach.

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kat468's review

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emotional lighthearted reflective medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? It's complicated
Loveable characters? No
Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

1.0

The short review: I’m bored. I’m so bored and I don’t care, and I didn’t like the message, and also, I’m bored.

The longer review, broken down into the biggest issues I had with the book:

The messaging: I’m happy the MC (Amy) figured out how to be authentically herself at work, in a way that benefited her business and helped her feel better about herself, but the journey to get there was a bit sanctimonious and pressure-y. The MC spends a lot of page space on internal monologues explaining that she’s not being authentic/honest/“faithful to the queer community” by not being out at work or super loud and proud with her (homophobic) extended family. The resulting narrative implied that it’s imperative for queer people to be out, and that they’re doing something wrong if they aren’t. Sure, there was some caveats for not outing yourself in unsafe situations, but other than that, the book seemed pretty adamant that queer people should be OUT. Don’t get me wrong, I’m a huge advocate for queer representation, think people should be able to be out, and celebrate when people do come out — but coming out is never something queer people owe others (not straight people, and not even other queer people). If you believe coming out isn’t an obligation, but a choice, this book will likely rub you the wrong way.

The romance: The relationship happened very off-page — readers don’t actually get to read many interactions between the MC and the LI (Charley). Plus, the LI traveled a lot which almost seemed to be a very convenient way to not write as much of them together. When they were together, there was NO chemistry. I thought the LI was a very flat, boring character; I can’t tell you a single thing about her likes and dislikes, outside of her job. Honestly, one of the brides the MC works for/befriends (Regi) is a more developed character than the LI. I wasn’t invested enough in the relationship, so when they had their big moment in the end, it felt very rushed and unnatural and insta-lovey. There wasn’t the foundation to justify the ease with which they made up, or how far they jumped in the relationship (spoiler:

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jumping from not even defining the relationship before the break up, to exchanging “I love you” after the makeup

The writing: The author is definitely a “teller” not a “shower”. There were SO MANY PARTS where the author gave a couple sentence (or even couple paragraph) summary of a scene instead of writing it out — sometimes even writing a sentence summarizing one sentence of dialogue in a conversation, rather than writing out the dialogue. As a result, I felt really detached from the ongoings in the book and wasn’t emotionally invested. Also, I skimmed. A lot.

The “drama”: At 60% of the way through this book, there was basically no drama happening. Early on (like page 40) she gets fired from her job, and then pretty quickly starts the bridesmaid business. And then there’s approximately 200 pages of her just building the business and living her life. It was not an interesting 200 pages. And then, kind of out of the blue, a bunch of things go wrong — her best friend gets mad at her (for reasons I didn’t feel the previous 200 pages supported) and the relationship with the LI implodes. Plus, the whole time, the MC is whining to the reader about feeling like she’s lying to brides because she’s not coming out to them, and worried that she’s a people pleaser because she’s doing whatever she can to make the brides happy (…even though that’s literally what they’re paying her for: to make their events go smoothly and help them be happy).

Queer rep: lesbian MC, sapphic main pairing, background mlm relationships & gay men, background non-binary character, background other lesbian & gay characters

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challenging emotional sad tense slow-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? No
Loveable characters? No
Diverse cast of characters? No
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

2.5

I’m always on the lookout for more contemporary sapphic romances, especially set in the southern United States, so I was VERY excited to get my hands on an arc of Queerly Beloved. And that’s where the excitement ended. This book had great story concepts, but needed some serious editing - there were so many different storylines. Is it about someone hiding their queer identity at work? Or a professional bridesmaid? Or a sapphic romance? Or a coming of age story? It was trying to do too much and ended up succeeding at none of it. The side characters were all severely underdeveloped and seemed to rely on queer stereotypes. Also this should not be marketed as a romance, it’s barely a part of the storyline and has the most forced HEA of all time. 

So many content warnings for homophobia. 

Last thing - while I love the frequent use of pronouns in the book, that would not have been normal in 2013.

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