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poetricsoap's review against another edition
4.5
In general I really like the book. I specifically loved the highlight of the privilege because I think we tend to overlook these pretty easily! There are only one or two point that I don't agree with the author, e.g. if you have trauma, you shouldn't enter into a relationship.
Graphic: Ableism, Biphobia, Emotional abuse, Homophobia, Misogyny, Racism, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Transphobia, Lesbophobia, Gaslighting, and Sexual harassment
Moderate: Body shaming, Eating disorder, Mental illness, and Outing
paulamarie1468's review against another edition
4.0
Moderate: Ableism, Biphobia, Body shaming, Emotional abuse, Fatphobia, Homophobia, Misogyny, Racism, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, Transphobia, Abortion, Lesbophobia, Outing, Cultural appropriation, Gaslighting, Sexual harassment, Colonisation, and Classism
chsm8's review against another edition
4.75
Graphic: Misogyny and Sexism
Moderate: Ableism, Emotional abuse, Fatphobia, Racism, Transphobia, and Sexual harassment
Minor: Body shaming, Bullying, Eating disorder, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Racial slurs, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, Police brutality, Outing, Cultural appropriation, Gaslighting, Toxic friendship, Alcohol, and Classism
feliciavanleeuwen's review against another edition
3.75
I like her writing style and a lot of the book is very recognizable as a bi woman of the same age. Its a great introduction for people that are not that deep in to (intersectional) femenism yet.
The only thing that I'm missing is when she lists marginalised groups she tends to omit disabled in the list. Maybe she focuses on it more in the full version, but sometimes every marginality is mentioned but that. I know it's the short version but it wouldn't have added a page I think.
Moderate: Ableism, Biphobia, Body shaming, Domestic abuse, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Fatphobia, Homophobia, Mental illness, Misogyny, Racism, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, Violence, Xenophobia, Islamophobia, Gaslighting, Sexual harassment, and Classism
Minor: Bullying, Domestic abuse, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Fatphobia, Hate crime, Homophobia, Infertility, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Racial slurs, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Antisemitism, Lesbophobia, Outing, Sexual harassment, and Colonisation
pianokeys's review against another edition
4.5
Moderate: Body shaming, Bullying, Cursing, Eating disorder, Fatphobia, Infidelity, Misogyny, Racism, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, Transphobia, Stalking, Abortion, Lesbophobia, Cultural appropriation, Gaslighting, Toxic friendship, and Sexual harassment
bookshelfhannah's review against another edition
4.0
Moderate: Rape, Sexual assault, and Gaslighting
das_nomi's review against another edition
4.25
Graphic: Biphobia, Body shaming, and Sexual harassment
Moderate: Ableism, Emotional abuse, Homophobia, Physical abuse, Racism, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, Outing, and Gaslighting
Minor: Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, and Sexual harassment
It’s a lighthearted approach to the problems modern women* face in our patriarchal society. With helpful “tips” to overcome our own internalised misogyny and recognise our own faults as well as setting boundaries for ourselves.bunnyprincess's review against another edition
1.5
It is simply worded and explains very basic concepts, sometimes in a manner which feels quite condescending, which would suggest it is for a younger audience newer to the idea presented, but this would not make sense as the book is quite explicit and definitely not appropriate for younger teens. Given clearly addresses the messages in it to women whilst simultaneously saying that men are the issue- again, I think this makes the audience of the book unclear.
Additionally, the purpose is unclear. Whilst the title suggests a focus on feminism, it is also about dating and queerness that sometimes is tied in but usually isn't. This gives the book a very unclear point. It does not clearly fit into a genre and includes both memoir and self-help. I found the memoir parts more useful and entertaining because it gives reason for her to actually have written the book based on her experiences. The self-help parts were far less successful. It is repetitive and vague: whilst I do not disagree with any of her points, they are very basic and surface-level.
My main issue with this book is its regard for intersection feminism and other identities other than Given's own. Whilst I appreciate her recognition of those identities and their further struggles, it felt performative and poorly done. It often felt like they weren't real due to the disconnect in her writing about POC, trans and disabled women, and the lack of voice she gives to them. Although it was mentioned, it was through her own white cis narration- if she had included their actual voices, it would've been a far better book. This, in addition to the issues around her copying a black author's book, makes this book a bad feminist guide.
Whilst this book has some merit in the pretty illustrations and the transparency on some issues such as sexual assault, it fails in most other areas. It is bad both as an beginners introduction due to its lack of clarity and as a further read due to its lack of representation and surface-level observations. It also very rarely references studies and facts- it seems more guided by the author's opinion which would be fine if it was written and marketed purely as a memoir, but it is not. There are far better feminist books.
Graphic: Misogyny and Sexism
Moderate: Eating disorder, Fatphobia, Homophobia, Racial slurs, Racism, Rape, Sexual assault, Gaslighting, and Sexual harassment
jemmareadsalot's review against another edition
4.25
Minor: Emotional abuse, Hate crime, Homophobia, Misogyny, Racism, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual content, and Gaslighting
franzi_cs's review against another edition
5.0
Moderate: Eating disorder, Fatphobia, Misogyny, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Outing, Gaslighting, and Sexual harassment