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agica's review
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
4.0
Why on earth is every feminist fiction and non-fiction has to have a heroine that is either lesbian or been in a heterosexual marriage and once that gone super wrong and had a closure she marries a woman (so becomes a lesbian)? Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with someone finding their self and loving a woman, a man, both or neither. My issue is, that it seems that the feminist writers are many times not really fond of men and/or mistaken the healing and caring love between women with romantic love. I'm still waiting for feminist books where we do not hate men and don't blame the current generation of men for the hundreds of years of conditioning of the systems and costumes and the heroine is actually a men loving women.
Ok, that's out. Now a bit more about the book.
It is a must read for all who started their healing journey, might they be men, women or anything in-between or above. The book talks to women and daughters nearly exclusively (bit strange IMO) but I do believe men need to heal their women wound also.
Not mother hating or mother blaming, but showing the real cause of our traumas that is brought through for generations, caused by the system people created.
As with every self-help books it only works if you use the tools and questions. But if you do, it works well. Gentle time consuming self work that worth every minute. Great book.
Ok, that's out. Now a bit more about the book.
It is a must read for all who started their healing journey, might they be men, women or anything in-between or above. The book talks to women and daughters nearly exclusively (bit strange IMO) but I do believe men need to heal their women wound also.
Not mother hating or mother blaming, but showing the real cause of our traumas that is brought through for generations, caused by the system people created.
As with every self-help books it only works if you use the tools and questions. But if you do, it works well. Gentle time consuming self work that worth every minute. Great book.
samanthatully's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
slow-paced
4.5
chervbim's review
3.0
What a mixed bag of a book. I read this more from a clinical perspective and as someone who isn’t fully on board with IFS as a primary treatment for relational trauma. Webster focuses a lot on the effects of patriarchy and her intersectional analysis leaves something to be desired, as she treats issues related to race/culture/disability as an afterthought more than anything. I appreciated her conclusion but felt that some of the ideas she expressed should have been expanded upon in earlier chapters, especially when she discusses the role of accountability in healing. I found myself having difficulty relating to some of the more personal anecdotes and wonder how these would translate for others who grew up outside of the nuclear family structure that Webster describes.
sunshinemilk's review
4.0
“For generations, wounded mothers have been unconsciously asking their daughters to compensate them for what patriarchy and their families would not give them; sense of purpose, control, and personal validation.”
PHEWWWW!!! This book was incredible and I’ve already been recommending it to folks.
I wanted to give this 5 stars, however the author at one point names the Hindu Goddess Kali as well as Baba Yaga as the same apocalyptic mother archetype. This felt really strange to compare a holy religious goddess to..a Slavic mythic old lady. It was goofy and off-putting. And trust me. I love Baba Yaga.
Even though this book relies heavily on gender specific pronouns for the person needing to be healed, I think this book would be amazing for anyone.
PHEWWWW!!! This book was incredible and I’ve already been recommending it to folks.
I wanted to give this 5 stars, however the author at one point names the Hindu Goddess Kali as well as Baba Yaga as the same apocalyptic mother archetype. This felt really strange to compare a holy religious goddess to..a Slavic mythic old lady. It was goofy and off-putting. And trust me. I love Baba Yaga.
Even though this book relies heavily on gender specific pronouns for the person needing to be healed, I think this book would be amazing for anyone.
sunnyisreading's review
4.0
“For generations, wounded mothers have been unconsciously asking their daughters to compensate them for what patriarchy and their families would not give them; sense of purpose, control, and personal validation.”
PHEWWWW!!! This book was incredible and I’ve already been recommending it to folks.
I wanted to give this 5 stars, however the author at one point names the Hindu Goddess Kali as well as Baba Yaga as the same apocalyptic mother archetype. This felt really strange to compare a holy religious goddess to..a Slavic mythic old lady. It was goofy and off-putting. And trust me. I love Baba Yaga. Otherwise I think the author did well calling-in fellow white women at the end of the book.
Even though this book relies heavily on gender specific pronouns for the person needing to be healed, I think this book would be amazing for anyone.
PHEWWWW!!! This book was incredible and I’ve already been recommending it to folks.
I wanted to give this 5 stars, however the author at one point names the Hindu Goddess Kali as well as Baba Yaga as the same apocalyptic mother archetype. This felt really strange to compare a holy religious goddess to..a Slavic mythic old lady. It was goofy and off-putting. And trust me. I love Baba Yaga. Otherwise I think the author did well calling-in fellow white women at the end of the book.
Even though this book relies heavily on gender specific pronouns for the person needing to be healed, I think this book would be amazing for anyone.
amandatory_reading's review
5.0
I’ve been recommending this to a number of friends who also have tumultuous relationships with their mothers. It’s been a big step in my healing!