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Talking to Strangers: What We Should Know About the People We Don't Know by Malcolm Gladwell

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kfedwards88's review against another edition

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informative fast-paced

3.0

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ferdie's review against another edition

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challenging informative sad tense medium-paced

4.5

The audio book is amazing. Hearing the voices as much as we could felt important to the points Gladwell was making about what we really know from our observations of strangers. In a highly divided world, "Talking to strangers" makes me reevaluate my quick judgement and learn to move through it towards curiosity and nuance. 

TThere were parts I greatly disagreed with and times where I waited for Gladwell to bring in perspectives in that he just... didn't. Overall, I appreciated what he added to conversation and definitely learned some new things, but am also walking away from the book feeling like there big pieces missing.
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sidekicksam's review against another edition

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2.25

A re-read of a book I read back in 2020, after the pandemic caused both a lot of isolation and division. People were literally keeping their distance, interacting less with strangers, but the summer of '20 also had some very painful revelations and awakenings for the race and equality discussions. 

Reading it again, I feel refreshed in the theories he outlines in the book. The 3 problems we have when encountering strangers (defaulting to the assumption that people can be trusted; thinking people's feelings always match their appearance and our inability to judge correctly whether someone is lying or the mismatch is happening; and that context is vital but also underappreciated) are a few that kept me curious, thinking and will stay with me in the back of my mind in encounters with strangers. Interesting food for thought and definitely contemplations that will stay with me. 

That being said, I am uneasy with some of the examples Gladwell decided to explore to prove his points. I already had some question marks during my re-read, but after reading multiple 1-star reviews (which have gained 1,000+ likes) on the first page, I'm seriously reconsidering whether this book is good enough to be read on its own (without the accompanying guide/reviews to also challenge the examples given). 

To use cases of rape and child molestation and trying to explain away the motives of witnesses or even instigators of the crimes is just... what? Why would you invalidate experiences of trauma instead of exploring the faulty assumptions on which we make errors (the cases of the Cuban spies in the CIA were much more compelling I think). 

Example: Brock Turner raping a passed out drunk girl on campus is explained away by their (mutual) excessive drinking and misinterpeted signals - I have never had to explain to any of my boyfriends that no means no (and that if I don't wake up or respond that is also a big fucking NO). 

Not taking the prejudice of race into consideration when discussing Sandra Bland's case, but explaining it away to miscommunication... especially with police brutality against Black people blowing up in the media in recent years, it's just harrowing.

I'm happy I don't just read books but also review them, because I may not have gotten further in my evaluation than 'whoo interesting material' without re-evaluating also the icky (and blatantly wrong) bits. 

Read it at your own volition, but do heed my warning. 
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bjdarby's review against another edition

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slow-paced

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melissa_m_m's review against another edition

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fast-paced
***WARNING FOR MENTION OF SA***




Gladwell lost me when he declared that the solution to college SA to curb college drinking - not to educate about consent,  not to hold perpetrators accountable - but that the solution was to address college alcohol consumption. It was especially disgusting that he used People v Turner as the example, as Turner's victim was found mid-assault while unconscious, on the ground, behind a dumpster - then tried to run away when caught because even while intoxicated, he knew what he did was wrong.
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whatthekatdraggedin's review against another edition

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informative medium-paced

2.0

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applelotte's review against another edition

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emotional informative reflective sad tense slow-paced

3.25

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csnyder0018's review against another edition

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challenging informative reflective medium-paced

3.75

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madde's review against another edition

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2.0

While I enjoyed the audiobook format, I had some issues with this. For one, the chapter on Brock Turn and alcohol related rape cases seemed to be taking away too much blame from Brock Turner. Admittedly, this chapter was too hard for me to read so I skipped through part of it. It’s possible it got better after this, but from what I have read of others opinions, it does not. I’d like to give Gladwell the benefit of the doubt and think that this section itself was communicated poorly, but it just did not sit well with me. 
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caiskel's review against another edition

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This book is interesting although it is different than I expected after reading the summary. I enjoy learning about psychology and there were some interesting points made in the book that will stick with me. But boy. This book is dark. Graphic descriptions of terrible things. I just had to stop. 
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