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annbanane's review
3.0
I know I'm not the target audience, but I found it interesting nonetheless. This was the first of the real dating-advice kind of books I've read. I definitely appreciated the focus on being authentic and vulnerable, and the importance of polarizing. Manson suggests that we get comfortable sharing part of ourself and come up with 3 examples (that can each be talked through for about a minute) for each of the following topics:
- passions and favourite things to do
- dreams, ambitions, life goals
- best and worst things that have happened to you
- childhood, family life, upbringing
Talking about these things tend to elicit similar sharing from your partner.
Always ask: what if it was a gift?
Action plan (ch 18)
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Fundamentals: 5/5
- join a gym (weekly habit)
- upgrade wardrobe
- get a nice haircut
- job security/satisfaction
- pursue 1 social hobby regularly (e.g. dance classes, join band, board games, etc)
Meeting: 4/5
- figure out demographics
- meet 5 people in 1 day
- meet 20 people in 1 week
- join online site and message 10 people
- sign up for a speed-dating/singles even
Getting to know: 2/3
- hold at least 3 30-min convos with new people you just met
- get at least 3 phone numbers from people you just met
- go on 2 dates
Getting intimate: 2/3
- kiss 2 people
- go on a second date with the same person
- get someone home
... let's leave it there.
- passions and favourite things to do
- dreams, ambitions, life goals
- best and worst things that have happened to you
- childhood, family life, upbringing
Talking about these things tend to elicit similar sharing from your partner.
Always ask: what if it was a gift?
Action plan (ch 18)
==========
Fundamentals: 5/5
- join a gym (weekly habit)
- upgrade wardrobe
- get a nice haircut
- job security/satisfaction
- pursue 1 social hobby regularly (e.g. dance classes, join band, board games, etc)
Meeting: 4/5
- figure out demographics
- meet 5 people in 1 day
- meet 20 people in 1 week
- join online site and message 10 people
- sign up for a speed-dating/singles even
Getting to know: 2/3
- hold at least 3 30-min convos with new people you just met
- get at least 3 phone numbers from people you just met
- go on 2 dates
Getting intimate: 2/3
- kiss 2 people
- go on a second date with the same person
- get someone home
... let's leave it there.
djrock79's review against another edition
4.0
Como a beleza da humildade, sinceridade e vulnerabilidade nos tornam mais atraentes aos olhos dos outros
brittonreads's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
funny
hopeful
informative
inspiring
medium-paced
4.5
basepi's review
4.0
4.0 stars
I read this book as a happily married man. Mostly because Jennifer Finlayson-Fife quotes Mark Manson pretty regularly, so I was intrigued.
I was surprised by how much I enjoyed and found value in this book. There is so much that is directly applicable to my married life. So many of the core teachings around non-neediness, vulnerability, and courage are essential to having a good relationship. And so many of us (as men) are missing these things.
I think it’s a worthy read for any man wanting to bring more of himself to his relationships, and be more desirable as a result.
I read this book as a happily married man. Mostly because Jennifer Finlayson-Fife quotes Mark Manson pretty regularly, so I was intrigued.
I was surprised by how much I enjoyed and found value in this book. There is so much that is directly applicable to my married life. So many of the core teachings around non-neediness, vulnerability, and courage are essential to having a good relationship. And so many of us (as men) are missing these things.
I think it’s a worthy read for any man wanting to bring more of himself to his relationships, and be more desirable as a result.
cynicusrex's review
3.0
“Always make other people break eye contact with you before you break it with them.”
But what if both individuals have read this book?!
Anyway, this book has solid advice; most of which I agree with, and less than a handful of parts not so much. For instance: "Here’s an easy way to get started. Go out and buy a 'black set' and a 'brown set'". I do not like this. As people age, gradually every male starts to look the same. It's bland and soulless. Instead, express yourself—such as your love for a band or your favorite physicist—through your clothing. If you're physically fit, and your clothes fit, and they're clean, you can basically look good in nearly anything. Buying clothes is easy, being physically fit is not. That being said, there's nothing wrong with a 'black or brown set', as long as you wear it because you feel good in it and not because you're expected to.
But what if both individuals have read this book?!
Anyway, this book has solid advice; most of which I agree with, and less than a handful of parts not so much. For instance: "Here’s an easy way to get started. Go out and buy a 'black set' and a 'brown set'". I do not like this. As people age, gradually every male starts to look the same. It's bland and soulless. Instead, express yourself—such as your love for a band or your favorite physicist—through your clothing. If you're physically fit, and your clothes fit, and they're clean, you can basically look good in nearly anything. Buying clothes is easy, being physically fit is not. That being said, there's nothing wrong with a 'black or brown set', as long as you wear it because you feel good in it and not because you're expected to.
singhvishwas's review
Good book, it talks about how you approach intimate relationships with women. How PUA community has ruined this.
aseananyhow's review
I got a girlfriend. Now I need to read books about giving love.