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Rose Madder by Stephen King

18 reviews

joshkiba13's review against another edition

dark emotional mysterious sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

"She didn't like seeing that look in his face, but she wanted to see it there. She did. He was a man, wasn't he? And sometimes men had to learn what is was to be afraid of a woman, didn't they? Sometimes it was a woman's only protection."

Man this was just so different from any Stephen King book I've ever read (in a good way). Dolores Claiborne also dealt with a woman living under an abusive husband, but this was an entirely distinct experience. Dolores was a hardened bitch (her own description) who took matters into her own hands to protect her children. Rosie on the other hand, someone who in no way considered herself a strong woman, took courage in the spur of the moment to flee her horrific situation. What follows is hundreds of pages of pure terror as her maniac ex-husband goes after her.

I absolutely loved Rosie as a protagonist. Stephen King must know some women who have been abused, because the passages of Rosie remembering those 14 years of hell with Norman were just so dense with emotion and despair. Seeing her battle to believe in herself and struggle to heal and trust others was both heartening and heartbreaking. Seeing people come to love her were the passages that made me tear up. At one point someone she meets in the story grabs her by the shoulders and unintentionally frightens her:

"Her eyes flew wide, and he saw the beginning of a cringe. It was a look that hurt his heart in a new, strange way. He suddenly remembered a story he had heard . . . Something about how, back in the days of the prophets, people had sometimes been stoned to death. At the time he had thought it the most fabulously cruel form of punishment ever invented, much worse than the firing squad or the electric chair, a form of execution which could never be justified. Now, seeing what Norman Daniels had done to this lovely woman with her fragile, vulnerable face, he wondered."

I think a lot of people outside of abusive situations might wonder why battered women don't leave their husbands. Someone reading Rose Madder may ask why it took Rosie 14 years to leave Norman. I think Stephen King answers those questions well with passages like these:

"Rosie felt a bleak certainty steal over her. Now he would ask why she had stayed with Norman, and . . . it was a question she couldn't answer. She didn't know why she had stayed with him, anymore than she knew why, in the end, it had taken just a single drop of blood to transform her entire life. She only knew that the shower had been the best place in the house, dark and wet and full of steam, and that sometimes half an hour in Pooh's Chair felt like five minutes, and that why wasn't a question that had any meaning when you were living in hell. Hell was motiveless. The women in Therapy Circle had understood that; no one had asked her why she stayed. They knew. From their own experiences they knew. She had an idea that some of them might even know about . . . things even worse . . ."

We're in no place to judge anyone in a situation like that; we're only to love them, support however we can, and root for them, as we root for Rosie from start to finish in this book.

Norman was a maniac; without a doubt the most despicable, disgusting villain of any book I've ever read. Because of him, this book is the single most violent one I've ever read, either. King describes evil SO well; I think it's one or his stronger suits. Passages like these just make Norman, an already terrifying man, all the more scary:

"The smile did not just slip from his face this time . . . it fell off so suddenly that [she] almost heard it shatter like an icicle on the steel toes of his boots."

". . . a sound so jagged it made Norman feel as if someone were rolling his brain in broken glass the way a baker would roll a doughnut in sugar."

"His shadow swells and bobs on the wall and then he's standing in the archway, looking at her out of his flushed and handsome face. The eyes in that face are as expressionless as shards of glass twinkling beside a country road."

I think the book's main weakness is in the supernatural elements that show up about halfway through the story and then again during the climax. That plot line was certainly interesting, but it felt kind of like an excuse to make tiny references to his Dark Tower books. I think I would have enjoyed the story all the same (or even a little more) if Rosie and her story were entirely told in a realistic, regular world.

My other little gripe is that

we endured through hundreds of pages of Norman killing people in the most brutal ways in order to find Rosie, and in the end he dies in like half a page (at the hands of someone else entirely)

. I found that to be a small letdown, but it didn't ruin the story.

I found the epilogue to be really human and realistic. Rosie,

even years later, is struggling to move entirely on from her trauma and even struggles with her own violently angry thoughts

. I don't think anyone ever has a sunshine and roses happy ending; lives are complex and able to be corrupted if we don't check ourselves.

This book made me cry, wince, cringe, smile, and cheer throughout the rollercoaster ride. Despite the little references to The Dark Tower, I do believe that pretty much anyone could pick it up and enjoy it. Just know the book would be extremely triggering to anyone who has experienced spouse abuse, miscarriage, stalking, or violence. It's an intense story. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Gore, Miscarriage, Violence, and Blood

Moderate: Rape and Cannibalism

Minor: Homophobia, Panic attacks/disorders, and Racism

ro_lux's review against another edition

dark emotional tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Body horror, Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Gore, Incest, Miscarriage, Misogyny, Physical abuse, Rape, Torture, Toxic relationship, Violence, Blood, Cannibalism, Abortion, Murder, Lesbophobia, Gaslighting, and Injury/Injury detail

Moderate: Racial slurs and Racism

dearcityskylines's review against another edition

challenging dark tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

3.75

The majority of the book itself was a good read. I enjoyed how King set up the plot and introduced the characters to the story. There were some turns in the book that were extremely tense, and I loved how Rosie continued on - but did it terrified. 

Only real issue I had was the ending. The story had a great build up, but the ending of the book is underwhelming. Not terrible, just not...tied together.

The ending with her and remember the tree seemed like a medicore ending to the horror she endured. It did add suspense, but it didn't do well for me.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Death, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Miscarriage, Physical abuse, Racial slurs, Rape, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Violence, Blood, Grief, Stalking, and Murder

pkc's review against another edition

3.0

This is a tough one to try and review. On one hand, it had most of the traits, tropes and archetypes I’ve come to expect from a King novel, but on the other…it had most of the traits, tropes and archetypes I’ve come to expect from a King novel. This just wasn’t the place for them and as such, I’d be hard pressed to recommend this in good conscience to anyone. However, overall, this was an engaging novel with more than a little air punching from me by the end.

The plot concerns Rose Daniels, nee McLendon as she is impelled by a drop of blood in her bed to flee her abusive marriage, and she does so, armed with her husband’s bank card. However, her husband, a policeman, doesn’t take this well at all and pursues her across hundreds of miles and the boundaries of reality and unreality. It’s the unreality part where my feelers started to go off. The descriptions of the abuse that Rose suffers are gratuitous at best, and as ever, King pulls no punches. I just felt that with the subject matter, it really didn’t sit right with me as I read. I also felt that as the story started to explore more of the fantastical elements (yes you read that right) the abuse was almost a conduit to an expansion of his other mythology and the main story just managed to resolve and make sense by the end. Kind of. I’m not convinced though.

Norman, her husband, as a character was so brashly written and there was no nuance. It seemed like there were attempts at giving his behaviour over to some unspoken mental illness or neurological problem. I’m pretty sure if you can think of any pejorative word against a marginalised person, Norman used it at some stage. He read as a pathetic chauvinistic bigot, which he was in so many ways, but his brute strength and apparent ability to evade consequence gave him an otherworldly slant that felt like too much credit.

Rosie as a character was probably the best realised character in the book and while she made some odd choices in the way she spoke to people (her tone was indecipherable at points) she was ultimately successful as the complex heroine and the fantastical elements worked best as they pertained to the founding of her new life. Special credit also to Bill Steiner who was a gorgeous romantic core, a calm port in really choppy seas.

All in all, to try and sum this up, I enjoyed this book, but I don’t think I’d recommend it to anyone. It’ll be 30 years old next year and I’d say it’s showing its age quite a bit. It feels like the last bastion of a certain era of King’s oeuvre. I adore his work, and I know that he has distanced himself from this book in the intervening years - it’s easy to see why. The three stars come purely from the hopefulness I experienced for Rosie and how the unreality and reality married together in the end.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Body horror, Bullying, Confinement, Cursing, Death, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Gore, Gun violence, Hate crime, Homophobia, Incest, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Misogyny, Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Racial slurs, Racism, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Torture, Violence, Forced institutionalization, Blood, Police brutality, Cannibalism, Religious bigotry, Car accident, Death of parent, Murder, Pregnancy, and Injury/Injury detail

cvrios's review against another edition

dark emotional tense slow-paced

• Strong character development? Yes

5.0

they had this in my middle school library! i first read it when i was like 13! this is not for a 13 yr old to read!

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Fatphobia, Homophobia, Miscarriage, Misogyny, Physical abuse, Racial slurs, Racism, Rape, Blood, Police brutality, and Murder

zone_a3's review against another edition

challenging dark hopeful tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.5

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Child abuse, Child death, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Homophobia, Miscarriage, Misogyny, Physical abuse, Racism, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Toxic relationship, Blood, Police brutality, Antisemitism, Cannibalism, Stalking, Abortion, Murder, and Lesbophobia

btrz7's review against another edition

3.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Body horror, Body shaming, Child abuse, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug use, Emotional abuse, Fatphobia, Gore, Homophobia, Incest, Miscarriage, Misogyny, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Racial slurs, Racism, Rape, Sexism, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Violence, Blood, Police brutality, Antisemitism, Cannibalism, Stalking, and Murder

stars_and_stags's review against another edition

dark emotional tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

I really enjoyed this book, however it is very much a book of its time. 

The first chapter is very dark and the opening pages are horrific to read. 

There are also quite a few words & phrases that were quite shocking to hear in 2023. 

Overall, I like the journey Rose goes on but I perfectly understand why some choose not to read this. It’s a tough read. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Addiction, Child death, Cursing, Death, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Gore, Hate crime, Homophobia, Miscarriage, Misogyny, Physical abuse, Racial slurs, Racism, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Torture, Toxic relationship, Transphobia, Violence, Police brutality, Antisemitism, Grief, Stalking, Abortion, Murder, Pregnancy, Gaslighting, Sexual harassment, and Injury/Injury detail

tifftastic87's review against another edition

adventurous dark emotional mysterious sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Plot
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

3.25

Another that I loved as a teen but didnt hit the same way as an adult. 

It made me more emotional this time around for sure but it was... Definitely 90s. Its always hard when King writes from his villain's perspective because they are always truly horrible and its hard to hear the language they use about other people. However it does truly make you hate Norman. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Body horror, Body shaming, Bullying, Cursing, Death, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Fatphobia, Gore, Gun violence, Hate crime, Homophobia, Infidelity, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Misogyny, Panic attacks/disorders, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Racial slurs, Racism, Rape, Self harm, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Slavery, Suicidal thoughts, Torture, Toxic relationship, Violence, Blood, Vomit, Police brutality, Medical content, Kidnapping, Grief, Cannibalism, Stalking, Death of parent, Murder, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Pregnancy, Lesbophobia, Gaslighting, Alcohol, Sexual harassment, Injury/Injury detail, and Classism

srags's review against another edition

dark tense fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Gore, Physical abuse, Racial slurs, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Toxic relationship, Violence, Blood, and Injury/Injury detail