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Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski

11 reviews

_jenna_s's review against another edition

hopeful informative inspiring reflective relaxing slow-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual content

Moderate: Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, and Sexual harassment

eliya's review against another edition

challenging funny hopeful informative inspiring lighthearted reflective fast-paced

4.0

Going in I anticipated a lot of out this book. I was hoping it would dive deeper into sexual anxieties & provide resources for sexual trauma, etc., but that’s not what this is. It’s setting the bar straight for sexual conversation and understanding, which is important. Emily Nagoski provides so much sex science in a very digestible way, although I personally could have done without so many analogies, it’s a first step for many on their understanding their sexuality. Once I realized that I’m not the intended audience for this book // got past what I expected this book to be, I really appreciated it for what it is. 

Really well written, really well organized, very easy to follow. Highly recommend for those of you who just don’t know where to start- sex is scary to talk about, but not with Emily Nagoski. :)

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual content

Minor: Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, and Sexual harassment

carlar's review against another edition

hopeful informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

4.0

Reading this book will probably be the first time you hear there is nothing wrong or broken about your sexuality. It’s informative, easy to understand, and has something for everyone.

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Sexual content

Minor: Body shaming, Homophobia, Misogyny, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Medical content, Grief, Medical trauma, Stalking, Lesbophobia, and Sexual harassment

riverofhorton's review against another edition

challenging funny hopeful informative inspiring reflective slow-paced

3.75

So much of this book is useful... To someone else.

I found I didn't learn a vast amount from this book, and the bits I did learn gave me more of a "Huh, so that answers this personal trauma question", rather than increasing my understanding of sexuality in general.

So many times the book says something, then it'll say "More on that in chapter x." or "Remember this from chapter y?" and it just served as a jolt in the flow.

One of the things I didn't like, and feel I need to mention: This book uses gender where it should be using sex, and woman where it should be using AFAB, etc. I understand that this was likely done to avoid confusing sex the action with sex the characteristic, but it's the kind of thing that I can see affecting other trans masc people more than I. Using gender (and woman) implies that this book would not apply to trans guys, because gender, but it does apply to us (without surgical intervention) because sex.

It does also seem to portray "Don't want/enjoy sex, that's OKay, change the context and you will." Which skirts a little too close to being Acephobic for my comfort. Some people just aren't interested in sex, and that's OKay.

The basic sum, is that this seems to very much be aimed at the cis woman in a heterosexual monogamous relationship seeking to understand her body and sexuality. Which is great for the cishet woman in a mono relationship. And while there are bits that can be applied to folx that don't fit those categories, the lack of inclusive language is noticeable.

Overall, I can see why this book is so popular, and I will be recommending it to others, with the above caveat as needed, but I just didn't get much out of it that I couldn't have got from trauma therapy.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Biphobia, Body shaming, Bullying, Child abuse, Chronic illness, Domestic abuse, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Infertility, Infidelity, Mental illness, Misogyny, Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Rape, Self harm, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, Transphobia, Violence, Medical content, Grief, Medical trauma, Stalking, Abortion, Acephobia/Arophobia, Pregnancy, Sexual harassment, Dysphoria, and Injury/Injury detail

amyrose23's review against another edition

informative reflective slow-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Minor: Sexual assault and Sexual harassment

millem's review against another edition

emotional hopeful informative reflective medium-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual content

Minor: Sexual assault, Sexual violence, and Sexual harassment

liv_txt's review against another edition

challenging emotional funny hopeful informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

4.25

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Misogyny

Moderate: Sexual assault and Sexual harassment

Minor: Fatphobia, Rape, Sexism, Suicide, Grief, and Stalking

karyan1's review against another edition

challenging informative reflective medium-paced

3.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual content

Minor: Body shaming, Mental illness, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, Stalking, and Sexual harassment

sakisreads's review against another edition

emotional informative inspiring medium-paced

4.5

THIS WAS ASTONISHING! I felt like I was learning so much throughout the book that left me astounded and with my mouth wide open 😳 The patriarchy really messed us up (as if we didn’t know that already). I especially enjoyed the part that states ‘all the same parts in different ways’.
I wish I’d gotten this in paper form so that I could use the workbook alongside it, but that might be a goal for another day. It’s one to definitely come back to, I don’t think I could tell you all that went down because there was so much information to digest 🥲 I appreciated the ‘tldr’ sections as well 🥰 Big, big fan of this! 👏🏼

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Body shaming, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual content, and Sexual harassment

laurenleigh's review against another edition

informative medium-paced

4.0

This book comes highly recommended, and I can see why. It definitely helps upend a lot of the stories society has told us about women and their sexuality. Most of it wasn’t exactly brand new information to me, but the packaging or framing of these concepts was interesting. The part about “stress loops” and how we can close them was definitely fascinating, and I’m not surprised this author expounded on this matter in her next book. I am curious to read that one. I’m glad I read this one, even if I didn’t love the reading experience. Despite the author’s enthusiasm and positivity, the subject matter often felt heavy, and I had to take it in small bites.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexism

Moderate: Domestic abuse, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, and Sexual harassment