Reviews with content warning for Violence - Bi: The Hidden Culture, History, and Science of Bisexuality

I enjoyed reading this book, and I learned a few things. However, I wouldn't really recommend it to anyone. If you know a lot about bisexuality like I do, it will retread a lot of ground. If you don't know much about bisexuality, you will come away from this book with a very skewed idea about bisexual culture and history.

The history chapter was just too short, and it was entirely focused on western Europe and the United States. It was very strange. An entire quarter of the chapter was about one dude who wrote a book that touched on bisexuality in the early 1900s. It was an interesting vignette, but it took up way too much of the chapter. In my opinion, it was not nearly as important as she made it out to be. I think she wrote more pages about this one guy than she wrote about Stonewall. The history chapter also abruptly stopped in the early 90s. She just wrote a wrap up paragraph that basically said that bisexual visibility has increased since then. Summing up 30 years of history in a paragraph or two is ridiculous. I did learn a few things from the chapter, but it mostly just filled in details about things I already knew. If you were new to LGBTQIA history, this would give you a really skewed, whitewashed vision of what happened. This chapter is the main reason I would not recommend this book to anyone.

I did really enjoy the chapter about whether or not queerness has a biological basis. It was interesting to hear about some of the discussions, research, and controversies around this question.

At one point, she discusses same sex sexual encounters in prison. She quotes men who had sex with other men in prison but still identified as heterosexual. She made a comment that she really thought these men should interrogate their sexuality more because they chose to engage in these sexual relationships; her reasoning was that they could have just masturbated alone if they weren't actually into sex with other men. She said it was their internalized homophobia that prevented them from identifying as bi. She was way out of line with this whole discussion. Everyone has the right to define their own sexuality. She doesn't know what it's like to be in prison for a long time. When someone describes their personal identity and experiences, believe them. "Actually, I think you're bi because you engaged in sex with other men while you were in prison, and I really think you should do some soul searching about that" is a really foul thing to say. These men opened up about their experiences and what those experiences meant to them, and she misappropriated their words to make a point that directly contradicts what they were saying. It was smug and gross.

She wrote a chapter about oppression of bisexual people around the world, and she discussed how bisexuals are explicitly denied political asylum on the basis of their sexuality. I thought that portion of the chapter was well done. My issue with this chapter is that it is the only chapter that featured bisexual people outside western Europe and the United States. In her book, bisexuals in Uganda and Poland don't contribute to bisexual history and culture; they only exist as oppressed people. She does try to counter the narrative of European/American superiority by pointing out that a lot of the violent homophobia in African countries is a legacy from European colonialism and by highlighting conversion therapy that happens in the United States and Europe, but the narrow focus of the rest of her book undermines that effort.

I think that the idea of this book is super important. There isn't a lot written explicitly about bisexuality; you have to unearth a lot of bisexual history from books that focus on the whole LGBTQIA movement. It can be tedious and difficult to create a unified narrative. I just wish she had done this in a more inclusive way. I get that she wanted to write a short book to provide a general introduction, but her brevity left the narrative incomplete.

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hopeful informative sad

4.25

loved the combination of political, scientific, historical facts & the authors own experience & input.

favourite part for sure was the one abt clothing / styling and the meaning interpreted in one single outfit people meet me in. the struggle

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hopeful informative slow-paced

3.75

This book is informative... to a newly bisexual person entering the community or a particularly good ally. But the advertising made me hopeful that it would be more for someone like me (someone who has been out and entrenched in the bisexual community for a long time). And while I did not feel unwelcome to this book, much of its contents were explaining things I already knew. Therefore, I recommend it as a touchstone and basic primer for bi studies.

*Also, this book treats all multisexual identities as falling 'under the bi umbrella', so if you are pan, poly, omni, etc. this book was written with you in mind, but you may not enjoy the bi-prioritization in the language.

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emotional hopeful informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

5.0

Loved hearing the history and additional thoughts on bisexuality. It’s refreshing to hear about.

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