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laura_nel13's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0
Graphic: Racism
Moderate: Cancer, Hate crime, Miscarriage, Misogyny, Physical abuse, Racial slurs, Sexism, Violence, Blood, Grief, Murder, Pregnancy, Toxic friendship, Alcohol, Injury/Injury detail, and Classism
Minor: Alcoholism, Chronic illness, Cursing, Death, Domestic abuse, Gun violence, Infertility, Slavery, Medical content, Religious bigotry, and Suicide attempt
k_winchester's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
3.5
Call it 3.5???? I guess???
Tbh, very conflicted on how to rate this. I really enjoyed reading it overall - it drew me in, I really enjoyed reading so much of it and found myself thinking about it a lot while I wasn't reading it and staying up waaay too late to read just a little bit more. There's alot of beautiful parts and beautiful things here.
But... there were also a lot of problematic things (not even counting the extremely problematic things I've now seen about the book and author - which I didn't know before/somehow missed when this book first came out and was crazy popular). But problematic things that I noticed like... pretty well every female black character is described as being large/fat. (Like there's no other body type for a black woman? If one was described, I missed it.) The way the language was written/the flow for Abileen and Minny was initially a little hard to get into, but once I got it, it was unique and interesting HOWEVER when I realized the author was a white lady (again, didn't know this going into reading or if i did know once upon a time, have since forgot) and it felt reallllly not okay for a white woman to be doing that. There was also a bit of a white savior element to the story at several points, which again was reallllly not great to see. Among some other technically "smaller" things that nonetheless made me go "yikes".
Without writing an entire essay (...too late? 🙃) there was *a lot* to appreciate, enjoy, empathize, laugh, have deep heartbreak over, and a lot of really good message that I can't discount - I actually loved a lot of it (hence the higher rating). BUT there were also a lot of Not Good things - mainly being that a privileged white lady is the one presenting them, which is sooooo YIKES - that I absolutely can't discount that either.
I guess... split the difference, and call it a tentative, super conflicted 3.5, I guess??? 😅😅😅
Graphic: Miscarriage, Racial slurs, and Racism
Moderate: Cancer, Domestic abuse, Sexual assault, and Grief
Minor: Death, Gun violence, Mental illness, Toxic relationship, Violence, Blood, Excrement, and Injury/Injury detail
griminycricket's review
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
4.75
Graphic: Domestic abuse, Hate crime, Racial slurs, Racism, Pregnancy, and Injury/Injury detail
Moderate: Alcoholism, Cancer, Terminal illness, Blood, and Sexual harassment
rchulin1's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.75
Graphic: Alcoholism, Body horror, Body shaming, Bullying, Cancer, Child abuse, Chronic illness, Cursing, Death, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Hate crime, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Racial slurs, Racism, Self harm, Sexism, Slavery, Suicidal thoughts, Terminal illness, Toxic relationship, Violence, Blood, Excrement, Vomit, Medical content, Grief, Religious bigotry, Suicide attempt, Gaslighting, Toxic friendship, Alcohol, Injury/Injury detail, and Classism
purplehulk713's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.5
There is so much you don't know about a person. I wonder if I could've made her days a little bit easier, if I’d tried. If I’d treated her a little nicer. Wasn't that the point of the book? For women to realize, We are just two people. Not that much separates us. Not nearly as much as I'd thought.
Taking care of someone means recognizing who someone is completely—where they come from, how they grew up, and how they relate to themselves and others because of that. We can’t place our own desires before the people we take care of or project our own needs, desires, or expectations upon them because that would reject their personhood to assume that our needs and expectations are worth more. The lines are not there, we draw them every day.
Graphic: Child death, Hate crime, Racism, Terminal illness, Blood, Excrement, Grief, and Pregnancy
ihavecoolhats6's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
4.75
Graphic: Racism
Moderate: Alcoholism, Cancer, Domestic abuse, Hate crime, Infertility, Miscarriage, Physical abuse, Racial slurs, Violence, Blood, Pregnancy, and Injury/Injury detail
Minor: Excrement and Vomit
earftoalex's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
3.75
Graphic: Domestic abuse, Hate crime, Miscarriage, Physical abuse, Racial slurs, Racism, Blood, and Injury/Injury detail
Moderate: Addiction, Body shaming, Cancer, Toxic relationship, Vomit, Alcohol, and Sexual harassment
Minor: Fatphobia
bootrat's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0
Graphic: Miscarriage, Racial slurs, Racism, and Blood
Moderate: Domestic abuse, Terminal illness, Vomit, Pregnancy, and Sexual harassment
Minor: Alcoholism, Cancer, Hate crime, and Excrement
atalea's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? No
3.5
Graphic: Miscarriage, Racism, and Classism
Moderate: Alcoholism, Domestic abuse, Hate crime, Racial slurs, Violence, Blood, Pregnancy, and Abandonment
Minor: Cancer, Infidelity, Self harm, Excrement, and Vomit
jg34's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
3.5
Graphic: Miscarriage, Racial slurs, and Racism
Moderate: Alcoholism, Blood, Alcohol, and Sexual harassment
Minor: Bullying, Domestic abuse, Gun violence, Hate crime, Physical abuse, Excrement, Vomit, Medical content, Pregnancy, and Classism