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Stay with Me by Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀

33 reviews

n_li_re's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? No
• Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child death, Death, Infertility, Infidelity, Sexism, and Pregnancy

Moderate: Sexual content, Terminal illness, Violence, Vomit, Death of parent, Murder, and War

Minor: Mental illness, Blood, Excrement, Medical content, Medical trauma, and Alcohol

bandysbooks's review against another edition

dark emotional sad tense slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? No
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.5

This book went in way different directions than I was expecting. It is a very dark story and unbearably sad. I found myself viscerally frustrated at several points while reading. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child death, Death, Infertility, Infidelity, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Sexual content, Toxic relationship, Medical content, Grief, Pregnancy, Gaslighting, and Abandonment

internationalreads's review against another edition

dark emotional mysterious sad fast-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child death, Chronic illness, Death, Infertility, Infidelity, Sexism, Sexual content, Medical content, Grief, Death of parent, Pregnancy, and Abandonment

amberinbookland's review against another edition

4.25

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child death, Death, Gun violence, Infertility, Infidelity, Miscarriage, Sexual content, Terminal illness, Toxic relationship, Violence, Blood, Medical content, Grief, Religious bigotry, Medical trauma, Death of parent, Murder, Pregnancy, Abandonment, Alcohol, and War

vi_vis's review against another edition

challenging emotional reflective sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child abuse, Child death, Death, Gaslighting, and Abandonment

amandaoestreich's review against another edition

emotional inspiring reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Plot
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child death, Death, Infertility, Infidelity, Miscarriage, Grief, and Pregnancy

rosalind's review against another edition

emotional reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Plot
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

3.25

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child death, Chronic illness, Death, Infertility, Infidelity, Sexual content, and Grief

Moderate: Alcoholism, Violence, and Abandonment

dotoridoritou's review against another edition

dark emotional hopeful reflective sad tense fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? No
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child death, Death, Emotional abuse, Infertility, Infidelity, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Sexism, Terminal illness, Toxic relationship, Violence, Grief, and Pregnancy

Moderate: Death of parent

Minor: Murder

ejb44's review against another edition

challenging informative reflective sad tense fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

 

Set in Nigeria during the 1990s and early 2000s, Stay with Me by Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀ follows Yejide and Akin on their troubled path to parenthood. The contrast between traditional family values and modern citizens breaking that norm permeates the book and is the centre of the conflict. The family are at cross-roads, with opinions rooted in Yoruba tradition and culture circling Yejide and Akin in their journey to conceive. 

Though mainly from the perspective of Yejide in the beginning, the book alternates between the two, so we read the raw emotions of both these adults as they are trying to conceive. The scale of emotional depth throughout the book is next to none, and for a debut novel, it is so raw and heart breaking that it often felt I was the protagonist going through the journey myself. 

The beauty of the writing, a style I would like to Purple Hibiscus, is what grounds the novel. Such detail to precision and a clear choice of words and plot is rare in best-selling novels and Adébáyọ̀ didn’t miss a beat in creating an enticing plot that had well developed characters and the right level of emotion to sustain the reader throughout. Adébáyọ̀ weaves the story in such a timely manner where each chapter unveils a new aspect to the story, a different angle or emotion for the reader to explore alongside the characters, and the quick pace of the novel never felt out of place. For a debut author to have such control of her writing is astonishing to see. 

My greatest joy when reading this book was seeing how flawed the characters were – time and time again, especially in marriages, writings will portray relationships as either toxic or perfect, with little room for complex analysis for themes of marital issues, divorce, cheating, infertility, child death and other more difficult subjects to discuss, but Adébáyọ̀ makes sure to centre these characters as flawed humans who are real and touchable. The book didn’t focus on who is accountable or who is to blame but just accepts that people are broken and don’t actually need fixing. This was a refreshing take on marriage, particularly marriages between African’s which often centre on African misconceptions (though, obviously, not untrue in some cases) like domestic violence and polygamy.  

The only thing that didn’t sit right with me was the ending, especially because I was so ready for this to be a five-star book. While I find it difficult to pin-point the actual reason why it annoys me so much, I thought the ending felt a little too simplistic and optimistic, especially when compared to the turbulence of the novel and the complex discussions and narratives that played throughout. I was gearing myself up for this novel to rip out my heart at the end, but in reality, I just felt numb to the ending, and perhaps that is my fault for always expecting the worst in novels. 

Overall, if you fell in love with the poetic language in Purple Hibiscus or want a novel that deals with Nigerian culture in the midst of their loose democracy being challenged, and also explores parenthood, polygamy and the dual narrative this book provides, I would highly recommend this read as it is so beautifully written. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child death, Death, Domestic abuse, Gun violence, Infertility, Infidelity, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Sexual content, Toxic relationship, Violence, Medical content, Grief, Medical trauma, Murder, and Pregnancy

gtea_reader's review against another edition

emotional reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Child death, Death, and Infertility