Reviews with content warning for Toxic relationship - The Heart Principle

A strong finish to this series! The Heart Principle just barely edged out The Bride Test for that #1 spot when I look back at all three and consider which I enjoyed best. And you know who get's to wear the crown of Consent King? QUAN! Consent between the main characters in this book is consistent throughout the narrative. In comparison to the first two books in the series, The Heart Principle also had the best pacing after the dark/challenging moment between the MC's.

Much of the story here centered on acceptance (both internal and external) and communication. Ana is doing just about everything she can in pursuit of acceptance and validation from her family, her boyfriend, her therapist, etc all to the detriment of herself. This also plays into the way she masks her behaviors as a response to her Autism Spectrum diagnosis. She wants to please everyone and constantly holds herself back and remains silent when it comes to disagreements, which leads to the theme of communication. She's left wondering, "Why is it so hard to say what I really think? Or to just say no?" When it comes to communicating her physical needs to Quan, saying the words is even more challenging. Because if you've never explored what you desire physically, how can you even begin to communicate that to an intimate partner. Quan, like the consent king he is, exudes patience and builds trust with Ana so she is comfortable exploring that side of her sexuality. For his part, Quan also has a character arc centered around acceptance. After an illness changed his physicality, a physical part of himself that is typically associated with "manhood," he is coming to terms with what that means for him in intimate situations and the way it has impacted his future. Layered on top of this is the challenge he faces professionally when it comes to his apparel company's acquisition deal.

Other interesting themes/ideas addressed:

Sibling relationships in Chinese culture
Anxiety, grief, and suicidal thoughts
End of life caretaking
Assumptions made based on physical appearance
Internalized ableism

Overall, really happy that I finally read this series. All the books can standalone but are best read in order.

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emotional hopeful inspiring medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

5.0

This book absolutely gutted me. I don't have autism but I felt Anna's exhaustion from masking and burnout in my chest, because that is how elegant a writer Helen is. The truth of this book is that there is a line where you have to recognize your own brain and body's limits, or else your brain and body will tell you.

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emotional reflective sad medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? A mix
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

2.75

“Just because something isn't perfect doesn't mean we need to throw it away.”

Okay this book I definitely forgot was a part of an interconnected stand-alone series. I did read The Kiss Quotient, which I looooove so much and would definitely need a reread. So it was a shock for me and immediately thought - "Hmmmm. This guys sounds familiar."

This book is a quick read but definitely not for me. I don't really love insta-love and this book screams that. I would have loved to see a bit more falling in love or simply just liking one another. Especially for Quan, it was like he just fell so deeply without looking back. One moment they were textmates - then met up - then immediately can't stop thinking about her and would do everything for her.

I did love the story of Anna (lowkey I forgot we have the same name lol) and her family. It shows how people doubts your condition. It was so hard for her to tell them about her diagnosis so when she actually did tell them, they simply chose not to believe her. I can't relate to her but Helen Hoang wrote it in a way that I felt it with Anna. You really can't blame her for being her because nobody diagnosed you at a young age so you thought what you were doing was the right thing - but the right thing was for you to just be yourself. Helen really wrote this book just to show that and if you want to understand more, this would be a good read. I would read it for the additional knowledge but not for the romance.

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emotional funny inspiring reflective sad medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

The romance is almost the background to Quan and Anna's personal journies with grief and identity, but that makes everything about this story more personal and poignant. Yes, you still get the tender moments and the spice that the other books in the series do so well. But it's really a romance for readers who love character development and self-reflection.

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