Reviews tagging 'Deadnaming'

Dzień dobry, potworku. Historie z terapii, które inspirują do walki o samego siebie by Catherine Gildiner

5 reviews

tessazwaan's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional hopeful informative reflective fast-paced

3.0

Okay tbh I loved this book for its readability - easy to read (tbf very intense traumatic stories so look at the trigger warnings first), very interesting and the cases so extreme that you want to  keep reading. However, to me it was problematic too, which is why I give this only three stars. 

First and foremost, I hate the emphasis on being “strong” (read: cope with excessive working, shutting off feelings and function “normally” in a kapitalist society). The sentence “She had to be tough, otherwise she would have formed a disorder” perfectly describes the tone of the book. 

Secondly, as a therapist, I feel like you should refrain from labelling people’s feeling as “whiny” or “needy”, especially since the people being called whiny and needy were severely abused. Sentences along the lines of “I wish people could hear this story when they are in my office complaining about insignificant childhood events” just don’t sit right with me. It’s disrespectful and lacks empathy, especially coming from a clinical psychologist. 

Third, there is some transphobia in this book. There’s deadnaming someone, only referring to her as a her after her surgeries and seeing a transgender woman explicitly as someone who could fulfill both a male and female role. I could have really done without that part, it also felt super unnecessary to add, since she wasn’t even a main character. 

Last but not least, how do you get consent to publish a life story from a dead man? Especially one from an Indigenous culture where keeping low profile is key? And this story was detailled as fuck? It felt just like she picked the most extreme stories to put in her book so her book could get as much shock effect as possible. 

So yeah, for me those issues took this from a five star review to three. I would recommend to read Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb over this book any day. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Domestic abuse, Adult/minor relationship, Bullying, Emotional abuse, Child abuse, Grief, Incest, Abandonment, Mental illness, Deadnaming, and Death of parent

botanicalprofanity's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional hopeful informative inspiring reflective sad tense

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Animal cruelty, Body horror, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Sexual assault, Alcoholism, Cancer, Deadnaming, Drug use, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Fatphobia, Forced institutionalization, Grief, Incest, Toxic relationship, Transphobia, Violence, Child abuse, Death, Domestic abuse, Sexual violence, Abandonment, Adult/minor relationship, Animal death, Body shaming, Bullying, Colonisation, Confinement, Death of parent, Drug abuse, Gaslighting, Kidnapping, Mental illness, Misogyny, Suicide attempt, and Rape

greatu's review against another edition

dark emotional inspiring reflective

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual content, Abandonment, Addiction, Body horror, Body shaming, Cancer, Child abuse, Child death, Death of parent, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Eating disorder, Fatphobia, Forced institutionalization, Gaslighting, Medical content, Medical trauma, Toxic relationship, Transphobia, Adult/minor relationship, Alcohol, Alcoholism, Death, Drug use, Grief, Rape, Genocide, Incest, Infidelity, Infertility, Physical abuse, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Sexual assault, Torture, Animal cruelty, Animal death, Confinement, Deadnaming, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Pedophilia, Emotional abuse, Sexual harassment, Sexual violence, Suicide attempt, Violence, and Vomit

grannyweatherwax's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional funny hopeful informative inspiring reflective sad medium-paced

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Transphobia, Violence, Suicide attempt, Suicidal thoughts, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Incest, Gaslighting, Emotional abuse, Domestic abuse, Death of parent, Deadnaming, Child abuse, Animal death, Alcoholism, and Abandonment

Moderate: Addiction, Abandonment, Alcohol, Alcoholism, and Vomit

samikoonjones's review against another edition

challenging dark medium-paced

1.5

Alana’s case study is shockingly transphobic, especially as it was written by a therapist. I took issue with the handling other patients as well, though none of the other case studies were as grossly irresponsible as Alana’s. I do not recommend this book. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Violence, Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, and Physical abuse

Moderate: Deadnaming and Transphobia