Reviews tagging 'Classism'

We Were Once a Family: A Story of Love, Death, and Child Removal in America by Roxanna Asgarian

6 reviews

ameliasbooks's review against another edition

dark emotional informative reflective sad medium-paced

4.5

Roxanna Asgarian’s *We Were Once a Family* offers an affecting and comprehensive look into the tragic story of the Hart family murders while shining a light on the systemic failures of the U.S. child welfare system. Rather than sensationalizing the crime or focusing on the adoptive mothers, Asgarian turns her attention to the true victims—the six adopted children and their biological families, whose lives were torn apart long before the horrifying deaths occurred.

One of the book's greatest strengths is its focus on the broader issues underlying this tragedy. Asgarian critiques a broken system that fails to provide adequate support to vulnerable families, particularly those from marginalized communities. The child welfare system, she argues, is not designed to solve the root causes of poverty and instability but is instead driven by racial bias, with a prevalent "white savior" mentality. The biological families of the children, mostly people of color, were repeatedly failed by institutions that seemed more interested in removing children from their homes than in providing the resources that could keep those families intact.

For readers unfamiliar with the U.S. child welfare system—particularly European readers—the book can feel overwhelming in its detailed analysis. However, this depth of information is essential for an American audience that needs to fully understand the systemic issues at play. Asgarian doesn’t just point to individual failures but to a larger pattern of neglect and exploitation built into the system itself.

The book is as devastating as it is informative, highlighting the human cost of a system driven by racist policies and a desire for quick, often harmful solutions. The stories of the biological families are heartbreaking and paint a clear picture of how institutional racism and economic inequality intersect to create such tragedies.

However, the book is not without its minor flaws. At times, there is noticeable repetition of certain details, which can give the impression that some chapters were originally published as standalone magazine articles. If this was the case, the book could have benefited from tighter editing to smooth these transitions and avoid redundancy. Despite this, Asgarian’s journalistic rigor and passion for the subject matter shine through, making this a crucial read.

In conclusion this book is a powerful and eye-opening investigation into a deeply flawed child welfare system. Though difficult to digest at times, it is an essential work that sheds light on the need for reform and justice for the victims and their families.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Addiction, Child abuse, Child death, Confinement, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Physical abuse, Racism, Suicide, Forced institutionalization, Medical content, Grief, Medical trauma, Car accident, Murder, Pregnancy, Abandonment, and Classism

oworthyfool's review

challenging dark emotional informative sad fast-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Addiction, Child abuse, Child death, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Emotional abuse, Genocide, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Racism, Self harm, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Violence, Forced institutionalization, Medical content, Grief, Car accident, Suicide attempt, Murder, Pregnancy, Cultural appropriation, Gaslighting, Abandonment, Injury/Injury detail, Classism, and Pandemic/Epidemic

Moderate: Ableism, Homophobia, Miscarriage, and Cultural appropriation

imstephtacular's review

challenging dark emotional informative sad tense medium-paced

4.5

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Addiction, Child abuse, Death, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Racism, Toxic relationship, Violence, Medical content, Grief, Gaslighting, Injury/Injury detail, and Classism

Moderate: Ableism, Bullying, Drug abuse, Drug use, Eating disorder, Physical abuse, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Forced institutionalization, Police brutality, Suicide attempt, Death of parent, Murder, Pregnancy, Abandonment, Alcohol, and Pandemic/Epidemic

Minor: Gun violence, Homophobia, Infidelity, Miscarriage, Racial slurs, and Lesbophobia

careinthelibrary's review

challenging dark emotional informative sad medium-paced

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Addiction, Child abuse, Child death, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Drug use, Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Racism, Forced institutionalization, Grief, Medical trauma, Murder, and Classism

Moderate: Confinement, Homophobia, Toxic relationship, and Lesbophobia

Minor: Suicide, Suicide attempt, and Pandemic/Epidemic

wyabook234's review against another edition

dark emotional informative sad medium-paced

4.25

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child abuse, Racism, and Murder

Moderate: Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, and Classism

caseythereader's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional informative sad medium-paced

5.0

 - WE WERE ONCE A FAMILY is investigative journalism at its best: a book that brings you the untold side of the story and uncovers corruption and neglect far beyond what you thought possible, while maintaining the full humanity of the families at the center of the story.
- This is one of the most enraging books I’ve ever read. It’s the story of people and systems that we sweep under the rug and ignore, because our society has preemptively deemed them as not worth saving.
- Asgarian is quite blunt in her conclusions: none of this had to happen, none of this should have happened, none of this need ever happen again in the future if we wake up and begin to treat everyone as a human worthy of love and care, and if we work to tear down the flawed and failed systems that allowed it. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Addiction, Alcoholism, Child abuse, Child death, Confinement, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Drug use, Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Physical abuse, Racism, Suicide, Violence, Forced institutionalization, Blood, Medical content, Grief, Car accident, Suicide attempt, Murder, Pregnancy, Abandonment, Injury/Injury detail, Classism, and Pandemic/Epidemic