Reviews tagging 'Emotional abuse'

Elvis And Me by Priscilla Presley, Sandra Harmon

11 reviews

skelleybean's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional informative reflective sad medium-paced

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Gaslighting, Toxic relationship, Addiction, Alcohol, Adult/minor relationship, Child abuse, Cursing, Drug abuse, Drug use, Emotional abuse, and Bullying

Minor: Death, Pregnancy, Body shaming, Domestic abuse, Physical abuse, and Grief

randimcphee's review against another edition

challenging emotional fast-paced

3.75

The writing itself isn’t anything mind blowing, but the story is absolutely fascinating. Reading a first hand experience of Elvis’ life, troubles, addictions, and attitude had me questioning a lot about what I thought I knew about him. This story is their love story, but also how he transformed from a sweet, generous, Southern boy with too much money, to a controlling, manipulative, borderline monster.

I think the lowest point of this book is that the author, his only wife, Priscilla, never seems to understand just how deeply terrible Elvis’ actions were. It was just so heartbreaking and scary, and I found throughout the book that I wasn’t rooting for the love story.

Even after their divorce, she said they were friendly, held hands, kissed, and acted like a family when they were together. It seems like she was never truly able to get out of his grip, even after everything and divorcing him. It was an interesting story, but also felt like whiplash. A good story, but disappointing to know the truth and see Priscilla be taken advantage of way too much.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Drug abuse, Sexism, Pedophilia, Drug use, Alcohol, Toxic relationship, Emotional abuse, and Adult/minor relationship

Moderate: Infidelity, Death, and Death of parent

Minor: Body shaming, Eating disorder, and Sexual assault

nerdinthelibrary's review against another edition

i genuinely don't think i can rate this. it's pretty well written, fast-moving and compelling. the entire story is fascinating, particularly because there's basically no point at which priscilla seems to ever realise that what's happening is bad. she was groomed and abused from age fourteen and there's never any point, even with the hindsight of her writing this in her forties, where she criticises elvis. there are a few times when she offhandedly says that something was bad but she always follows that with a justification. makes me so curious about the framing of the sofia coppola movie considering the fact that priscilla was involved and seems happy with it. not to make priscilla sound stupid because i don't think she is, but i really do wonder if the coppola movie does frame the film as being about an abused woman and priscilla didn't realise, because this book literally describes elvis throwing things at her and flying into rages and taking pictures of her naked as a teenager and convincing her to take pills and not allowing her to get a job and isolating her from any sort of support system she could have had, and she never seems to find any problem with it. anyway, fascinating book, would recommend, incredibly disturbing. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Drug abuse, Emotional abuse, Adult/minor relationship, Domestic abuse, Pedophilia, Drug use, Addiction, and Physical abuse

frannysal's review against another edition

dark informative sad fast-paced

2.25

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Adult/minor relationship and Drug abuse

Minor: Rape, Emotional abuse, and Domestic abuse

kingfreckle02's review against another edition

challenging emotional informative reflective sad tense fast-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Gaslighting and Toxic relationship

Moderate: Death, Addiction, Adult/minor relationship, Drug use, Emotional abuse, and Death of parent

Minor: Pregnancy

noot_noot's review against another edition

dark emotional informative reflective sad medium-paced

4.0

Eye opening

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Drug abuse, Toxic relationship, Mental illness, Death, Grief, Emotional abuse, Drug use, and Infidelity

sarahreadsalotofbooks's review against another edition

dark emotional sad tense fast-paced

4.0

I knew Elvis was a mess but I didn’t realize he was an abusive groomer.

He began grooming Priscilla when she was 14 telling her how to behave, what to wear, how to wear her makeup.  By the time she was 16 they were sexually involved and he had convinced her to take sexual photos. He was emotionally and mentally abusive, as well as physically abusive at times.

Throughout all of this he was also grooming her parents, eventually getting them to consent to allow her to leave them to go live with him for the remainder of her high school years. 

Priscilla comes across as someone with Stockholm syndrome finding his behavior humorous as she narrated this at times. She describes the time he raped her as “forcefully made love to her”. 

As despicable a person as he was, this was a well-written, informative book.  

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Emotional abuse, Pedophilia, Violence, Cursing, Mental illness, Addiction, Bullying, Child abuse, Drug abuse, Drug use, Physical abuse, Toxic relationship, and Domestic abuse

Moderate: Rape, Infidelity, and Sexual content

blueeyedshook's review against another edition

4.0

The story of Elvis and Priscilla is actually quite shocking. I had no idea they met and got together when Priscilla was 14 with Elvis 10 years older than her. And her parents just let it happen. They even let her go live with him in America while they were still stationed in Germany!! Whoa. Seriously?! I kept waiting to find out that I was misunderstanding, but then she'd talk about being 16 and going to school or whatever. I know she has come out and said that it was a different time. Still, he felt predatory. He sought her out. He said she reminded him of his little sister. He would have her come over and lay in bed with her after parties (but just talk for hours.....wanting to save intimacy for a time when they were "ready" because it was so important to him). It felt like he was grooming her. Even once she was older, he didn't want her to have a job as a model because he wanted his woman home to care for him. I know it was a "different time" but not like biblical times! Adults dating minors was still frowned upon.....RIGHT?!
Anyway, Priscilla narrating the audiobook was worth it all. She is so clearly still in love with him--which is why I think she was a bit in denial about how weird or inappropriate some of their relationship was, as well as in denial about how he acted in some ways like not knowing what the drugs he offered her would do to her.....yes! He offered her drugs at a very young teen age as well.) She would laugh while she was reading, and it made it so much more real and relatable. Her little giggle at his humor was so cute. I really enjoyed listening to her read it, and of course here about Elvis.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Drug abuse, Adult/minor relationship, Drug use, and Emotional abuse

Moderate: Alcohol, Infidelity, Alcoholism, Addiction, Cursing, and Emotional abuse

toofondofbooks_'s review

emotional informative reflective sad fast-paced

i can't rate this. how do you rate this? all i know is that i'm crying. my poor little heart needs 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Death of parent, Emotional abuse, Suicide attempt, Misogyny, Death, Domestic abuse, Sexual content, and Suicidal thoughts

Minor: Child death, War, and Fatphobia

briski's review against another edition

emotional informative reflective sad tense medium-paced

3.5

Ok so here’s the thing. I’m in my Elvis era. I’ve been in my Elvis era because I’m a slut for some Baz Luhrmann cinematic mania and for Austin Butler but PRISCILLA. The amount of times I audibly said yikes was far too many. The amount of time I heard the word karate was far too many. Who would have guessed martial arts would be what lead to Priscilla’s awakening moment? And while there were soooooooooooooooooooooo many red flags (none of which PP really called out) that ending really did make me a little sad. Things I feel are worth remembering

Elvis took PP to the morgue as adventurous little trips

PP took lessons from Chuck Norris

When PP met Elvis she had JUST turned 14 and he was dressed like a target employee eating bacon sandwiches with mustard

He rented out entire movie theaters and roller rinks

They fully stood up on roller coasters

He died at the same age as him mom

PP refused to gain weight during her pregnancy and they were banging up until the last 6 weeks of her pregnancy

EDIT I’m bumping this up from 3 to 3.5 because I’m still thinking about it. That doesn’t mean it’s exceptionally well written but I think it deserves a boost for how long it’s lingered in my brain. Truly the morgue stuff is gonna be a permanent resident in my mind. I can’t believe that was real. 

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Infidelity, Pregnancy, Religious bigotry, Death of parent, Domestic abuse, Death, Mental illness, Sexual assault, Fatphobia, Adult/minor relationship, Alcohol, Drug abuse, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Alcoholism, Drug use, Body shaming, and Misogyny