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baileyanabella's review against another edition
This is often referenced in most other polyamory books I've picked up, so I thought I should give it a shot. I gave it a very fair shot, I think, but truthfully the point I got to in the book was from primarily skimming through sections that discuss things I already know or am comfortable with, and didn't seem to offer much new insight to keep me intrigued. This is, almost literally, a manual for how to be non-monogamous. A good reference for sure, but way less of a personally driven narrative and more fact slough.
marquaal's review
3.0
In general, this book is useful and eye opening. Common themes for consent, agency, communication, self efficacy, and the difference between rules/boundaries run throughout the book.
Drawbacks? The writing could be much more concise. The authors describe poly as possible in many forms, but it feels like they have a "way to do poly" in mind (that may or may not match the reader). Largely focuses on cis het poly couples. The authors insist on using he/she pronouns throughout, which add a weird gender imbalance to many of their examples. Tends to put the burden on the less secure partner. Several sections have publishers notes (at the end of chapters) saying that experts disagree or find portions of the chapter problematic (but then recommend an additional ebook from the authors).
Drawbacks? The writing could be much more concise. The authors describe poly as possible in many forms, but it feels like they have a "way to do poly" in mind (that may or may not match the reader). Largely focuses on cis het poly couples. The authors insist on using he/she pronouns throughout, which add a weird gender imbalance to many of their examples. Tends to put the burden on the less secure partner. Several sections have publishers notes (at the end of chapters) saying that experts disagree or find portions of the chapter problematic (but then recommend an additional ebook from the authors).
reba_reads_books's review
5.0
I originally rated four stars because I think the writing style could've been more concise, but that's a quibble of a criticism. This book deserves five stars; it's the best book on polyamory I've read so far. It's my bible. This is the book I come back to again and again. It's the book that focuses on ETHICS,
on respecting all of the people in your life (that includes yourself!) while loving more than one person. If you're just starting out in non-monogamy, I recommend reading [a:Tristan Taormino|13893|Tristan Taormino|https://images.gr-assets.com/authors/1241222874p2/13893.jpg]'s [b:Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships|1128665|Opening Up A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships|Tristan Taormino|https://images.gr-assets.com/books/1328748284s/1128665.jpg|1115844] first; it's a fantastic overview of ALL forms of non-monogamy, polyamory being just one of them.
on respecting all of the people in your life (that includes yourself!) while loving more than one person. If you're just starting out in non-monogamy, I recommend reading [a:Tristan Taormino|13893|Tristan Taormino|https://images.gr-assets.com/authors/1241222874p2/13893.jpg]'s [b:Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships|1128665|Opening Up A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships|Tristan Taormino|https://images.gr-assets.com/books/1328748284s/1128665.jpg|1115844] first; it's a fantastic overview of ALL forms of non-monogamy, polyamory being just one of them.
carmiendo's review against another edition
5.0
FUCK WHO YOU WANT AND FUCK WHO YOU LIKE
ok so i read this book for a complicated series of reasons, like probably i shouldn't have recommended it without reading it myself first. shockingly it didn't contain any new information for me! i don't regret this decision though.
i agree with saagar that it's pretty applicable for any type relationship, so if you like people and also enjoy not being a jerk you might want to read this book.
ok so i read this book for a complicated series of reasons, like probably i shouldn't have recommended it without reading it myself first. shockingly it didn't contain any new information for me! i don't regret this decision though.
i agree with saagar that it's pretty applicable for any type relationship, so if you like people and also enjoy not being a jerk you might want to read this book.
jaipal's review
5.0
I found this book to be an easy read with a mix of common sense that can be applied for both mono and poly relationships. The authors provide a lot of examples from their own experience as well as good advice for any relationships...mainly make it a choice and have good communication between partners. Being a book for poly relationships, this book provides poly centric chapters that are meant for those in poly relationships. That being said, the authors themselves say there are many different types of poly relationships and this book does not cover all the different types of relationships. There is no one best practice and each situation will require communication between partners to navigate through it.
I highly recommend this book, for anyone wanting relationship advice, be it a poly or mono relationship.
I highly recommend this book, for anyone wanting relationship advice, be it a poly or mono relationship.
mx_parall_el's review
4.0
I think even folks who remain monogamous could benefit from the questions this book poses. It presents information on healthy boundary setting and maintenance that anyone in any relationship type could use. It also demystifies some of the issues polyamory has from just a general lack of resources on the topic. It does so without feeling very biased, stating only where they experienced issues and where they worry about the ethics on some issues, but always left me feeling like it was my choice about what felt right to me.
dfostermartin's review
2.0
More Than Two is ok as a basic primer on polyamory, but it's interesting, since it is in an older poly book, how much it has in common with The Ethical Slut (another older poly book). I appreciated the more nuts and bolts logistical information that was included in the later chapters, but it felt like (overall) a kind of dated perspective on things. A little bit like hearing about polyamory from a few baby boomers that you surprisingly meet. So, interesting, but not as informative as I was hoping.
emmaloren's review
5.0
I found this to be a really interesting and helpful book, regardless of whether you identify as monogamous or polyamorous.
There is a lot in there about communication and addressing needs that I wish I'd be able to take into my previous relationships.
Obviously some parts weren't relevant for me, but what was relevant, was super useful.
There is a lot in there about communication and addressing needs that I wish I'd be able to take into my previous relationships.
Obviously some parts weren't relevant for me, but what was relevant, was super useful.
leighwitz's review
4.0
I devoured this. Practical, honest, and warm. I want Franklin and Eve’s voices whispering in my ear with every decision I make about how to treat people like
people, protect my heart, remain open, and offer the immense amount of love I have to give.
2024 edit: Several years into polyamory, I'm able to see the flaws woven throughout. I've grown to have a more nuanced understanding of community care and the problems with a self-reliance mindset.
people, protect my heart, remain open, and offer the immense amount of love I have to give.
2024 edit: Several years into polyamory, I'm able to see the flaws woven throughout. I've grown to have a more nuanced understanding of community care and the problems with a self-reliance mindset.