Reviews tagging 'Rape'
Tomorrow Sex Will Be Good Again: Women and Desire in the Age of Consent by Katherine Angel
14 reviews
sophiewho's review against another edition
4.25
Content Warnings
Moderate: Sexual assault, Sexism, Sexual violence, Sexual content, Rape, and Sexual harassment
violetends's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
informative
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
This was fun, heavy, heartbreaking and empowering all at the same time. This was so well researched, phrased and structured that I don't really know what to say except that it does exactly what it promises and it does it incredibly well. This is a concise and at times painful analysis of consent, sexualized violence, gendered roles and experiences, political events, popcultural media, historical developments and movements and most of all, a clever and well-crafted answer to many (anti-feminist) rhetorical claims about women's positions and experiences around sex and consent. The author stresses that she can only speak on behalf of a very specific experience which is why she regularly quotes writers that have added queer and/or BIPoC perspective to discussions on these topics and I appreciate that transparency and acknowledgement.
I'm already looking forward to Katherine Angel's future writing.
I'm already looking forward to Katherine Angel's future writing.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Sexual harassment, Classism, Gaslighting, Mental illness, Sexual assault, Body shaming, Domestic abuse, Eating disorder, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, Murder, Physical abuse, Emotional abuse, Rape, and Sexism
lesenilpferd's review against another edition
informative
reflective
medium-paced
3.5
Content Warnings
Moderate: Rape, Sexual assault, Sexism, and Sexual violence
ivulikkivulik's review against another edition
informative
reflective
fast-paced
4.5
Content Warnings
Graphic: Sexual assault and Rape
angela42's review against another edition
emotional
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
4.5
Content Warnings
Graphic: Rape and Sexual content
lenin_lover_69's review against another edition
informative
reflective
slow-paced
3.5
Was prepared to like this and learn something but ultimately found it quite hard to read and take in...increasingly have less time for Very Serious analytical non fiction that reads like someone's masters thesis edited into a book. Authors like Lola Olufemi, Shon Faye and Amelia Horgan have shown how you can approach complex social justice issues in an accessible, readable and often funny way! They've really set the benchmark for me and I think this book is the poorer for its tone, which I think sits closer to some of the writers from the aughts/2010s she references e.g. Jessica Valenti.
I did like the discussion around how we shouldnt always have to know what it is we want and that there is excitement and eroticism in that unknowing. Also had never really thought about arousal and how it is conflated with desire.
I did like the discussion around how we shouldnt always have to know what it is we want and that there is excitement and eroticism in that unknowing. Also had never really thought about arousal and how it is conflated with desire.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Rape and Sexual assault
thesinginglights's review against another edition
5.0
There's a lot to say that would do this book a disservice to explain but it does well to be very even-handed considering the sensitivity of the subject. Divided into four sections, we explore, desire, consent, arousal, and vulnerability.
One of the most interesting aspects was the distinction making throughout: that we should not bundle up desire and consent, for one can be present without the other. Failing to separate them means we give ground to the outright dismissal of sex workers who people often wish to create more protections for.
Further to that, it carefully dismantle the idea that sexuality is linear and forthright, something that (mostly) women need to reclaim and be confident in. But many people don't know what they want and sometimes can't know, sometimes until you are in the situation. Then comes the question of safety, second-guessing, trust, understanding. Part of that is in the act itself, in not knowing.
This is my very bad way of summarising key ideas that have stuck with me but it's a very, very fascinating book. Recommended.
One of the most interesting aspects was the distinction making throughout: that we should not bundle up desire and consent, for one can be present without the other. Failing to separate them means we give ground to the outright dismissal of sex workers who people often wish to create more protections for.
Further to that, it carefully dismantle the idea that sexuality is linear and forthright, something that (mostly) women need to reclaim and be confident in. But many people don't know what they want and sometimes can't know, sometimes until you are in the situation. Then comes the question of safety, second-guessing, trust, understanding. Part of that is in the act itself, in not knowing.
This is my very bad way of summarising key ideas that have stuck with me but it's a very, very fascinating book. Recommended.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Sexism, Rape, Racism, and Sexual assault
mari_books's review against another edition
I really wanted to enjoy this book, it was recommended by a content creator I like, but I just could not get into it fully. Parts what the author described were fantastic, and so refreshing to see these individual experiences that are actually cultural phenomenon but down on paper. But, at times I failed to find the central thesis and the book fell into its own trap of questioning itself, going on and on. Additionally, it did not seem to acknowledge the different realities (cultural, socioeconomic, racial) that women and their sexualities inhabit well enough for me. Stopped reading because I was bored.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Sexual violence, Sexual content, Sexual harassment, Rape, and Sexual assault
leahlovesloslibros's review against another edition
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
3.5
This book was a great mix of feminism, science, and psychology - all surrounding the topic of sex. Women are constantly trying to be convinced that they should enjoy sex in the "right way," which typically equates to what men actually envision as being the right way. Tomorrow Sex Will Be Good Again uses the crossover between science and psychology to explain consent, assault, and desire in the era of Me-Too and feminism.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Misogyny, Sexism, Rape, Sexual assault, and Sexual content
Moderate: Cursing and Racism
madsbeth's review against another edition
challenging
informative
medium-paced
4.0
I wish this book took a more intersectional approach. Sure, the author included the occasion statistic on how Black women experience the world differently than White women, but White, heterosexual, cisgender women were largely the focus of the book. That being said, there was still plenty in here that was thought provoking and challenged hegemonic ideas about sex and sexual assault.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Rape, Sexual assault, and Sexual harassment