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A review by engpunk77
The Rules for Marriage: Time-Tested Secrets for Making Your Marriage Work by Sherrie Schneider, Ellen Fein
2.0
More entertaining (unintentionally) than helpful, this was much like a lighter version of Dr. Laura's marriage books. The authors seriously come right out and tell you in the beginning that you are not to compromise or try to work with your husband on your marriage. No marriage counseling, definitely don't let him know you are reading the book or ask him to consider issues in your marriage. Men, according to the authors, are incapable of doing relationship work. It is your job, women, to do ALL of the work. Men are not capable of change, sensitivity, personal growth, and why should they? Really. This is the main idea, and they aren't kidding.
What work, you may ask? Do as he says, stroke his ego, NEVER turn down sex, have more sex, be kinkier, watch porn with him, pretend he's perfect, pretend your kids are perfect (they even tell you to NEVER complain to your husband about the kids...he needs to see you as a perfect mother who can handle the kids without his unnecessary input), never bring up issues (just pretend the issues aren't there!), and rely on your girlfriends or a therapist if you continue to have silly moments of unhappiness with your marriage. You should never vent to your husband or reveal any discontent. In fact, if you catch yourself fighting, just say, "How about we just have sex?"
This book is kind of like a Stepford handbook for wives who want to keep their husbands. Always remember....it's much easier to be married than single. And if your husband divorces you? They advise to IMMEDIATELY begin dating multiple men. They say this whole baloney about "finding yourself" or "taking a year off from men" is rubbish. The only way to get over a man after divorce is to find another one. And don't forget a refresher on the rules for dating....
And the part I loved the most about this book was.....they weren't kidding. I will try to remember that if I'm unhappy for any reason, I just need to have sex. Why didn't I just figure that out on my own? Huh. I could've saved myself a lot of heartache!
What work, you may ask? Do as he says, stroke his ego, NEVER turn down sex, have more sex, be kinkier, watch porn with him, pretend he's perfect, pretend your kids are perfect (they even tell you to NEVER complain to your husband about the kids...he needs to see you as a perfect mother who can handle the kids without his unnecessary input), never bring up issues (just pretend the issues aren't there!), and rely on your girlfriends or a therapist if you continue to have silly moments of unhappiness with your marriage. You should never vent to your husband or reveal any discontent. In fact, if you catch yourself fighting, just say, "How about we just have sex?"
This book is kind of like a Stepford handbook for wives who want to keep their husbands. Always remember....it's much easier to be married than single. And if your husband divorces you? They advise to IMMEDIATELY begin dating multiple men. They say this whole baloney about "finding yourself" or "taking a year off from men" is rubbish. The only way to get over a man after divorce is to find another one. And don't forget a refresher on the rules for dating....
And the part I loved the most about this book was.....they weren't kidding. I will try to remember that if I'm unhappy for any reason, I just need to have sex. Why didn't I just figure that out on my own? Huh. I could've saved myself a lot of heartache!