A review by rick2
Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love by Jessica Baum
3.0
As a communication tool in a relationship “this is how things sometimes look to me, maybe you can understand” I think this book is fantastic. I think you create a shared language about avoidance and asking for your needs to be met that is really positive and healthy.
However, I think, as a sort of psychological, therapeutic modality, this book is not very helpful. It’s sort of bastardized internal family systems model that doesn’t resonate with any of the readings I’ve done there beyond just kind of holding space for your inner child. I think there’s a sort of mindfulness component of recognizing feelings and processing through them, but it’s just overly complicated and couched in this sort of need to be unique. Parts of this felt overly infantilizing. Generally, I thought that “actionable” parts of the book we’re pretty obtuse. The points about healing are disconnected. I did not find a through put on it other than to just deal with stuff as it comes up.
Read it as a discussion piece not as something that will help you fix your love life
However, I think, as a sort of psychological, therapeutic modality, this book is not very helpful. It’s sort of bastardized internal family systems model that doesn’t resonate with any of the readings I’ve done there beyond just kind of holding space for your inner child. I think there’s a sort of mindfulness component of recognizing feelings and processing through them, but it’s just overly complicated and couched in this sort of need to be unique. Parts of this felt overly infantilizing. Generally, I thought that “actionable” parts of the book we’re pretty obtuse. The points about healing are disconnected. I did not find a through put on it other than to just deal with stuff as it comes up.
Read it as a discussion piece not as something that will help you fix your love life