A review by heidirgorecki
A Woman of Intelligence by Karin Tanabe
4.0
A Woman of Intelligence dealt with so many insightful and complicated but brilliant concepts. The 1950s was very much an odd, and for many women, demoralizing or at least diminishing time period for women. With so many women having the opportunity to work outside of the home during WW2 and be involved in things they loved and were actually educated to do, only to have many of those opportunities yanked back after men returned from the war, for many there was a lost sense of purpose and control. Add in the often crude and male-dominant outlook then that a woman’s fulfillment should be solely as a housewife and mother and she should enjoy every second of it, it was not a healthy environment for many. The author did a great job at conveying all these things and the emotions of it.
While motherhood is a wonderful calling, it is not a simple one, and while for some woman they may desire to stay at home full time with their kids, many do not. But men expected that was required back then, as well as a wife should be obedient to her husband - not an equal, as we see often with Tom and Rina in the story. Certainly infuriating reading about it now. Being a mother is often ridiculously difficult and thankless, as Rina struggles with, let alone without the controlling and subservient way it was often done in the 50’s. Rina’s husband was able to find his fulfillment in his job, but unfortunately had a very simple and idealized view of what his wife should find fulfillment in with absolutely no empathy or involvement. And like happens so often in marriages, but so much more so with that type of lopsided environment, what was once love and care for each other became their own vacuum of experiences and needs, without communicating any of it to each other or finding common ground. Once Rina finds purpose and fulfillment working with the FBI during the communism-focused period of time, she begins to find herself and begins to be honest at the very end with her husband to potentially rebuild their relationship under new rules.
The author did a great job at highlighting much of the common but not always talked about struggle of mothering, how much marriages suffer when either spouse looks after their own ambitions rather than giving and empathizing with each other, and how women need each other and each others’ compassion instead of judgement, while not being afraid to be honest about our struggles.
Thank you to Netgalley for the advanced copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
While motherhood is a wonderful calling, it is not a simple one, and while for some woman they may desire to stay at home full time with their kids, many do not. But men expected that was required back then, as well as a wife should be obedient to her husband - not an equal, as we see often with Tom and Rina in the story. Certainly infuriating reading about it now. Being a mother is often ridiculously difficult and thankless, as Rina struggles with, let alone without the controlling and subservient way it was often done in the 50’s. Rina’s husband was able to find his fulfillment in his job, but unfortunately had a very simple and idealized view of what his wife should find fulfillment in with absolutely no empathy or involvement. And like happens so often in marriages, but so much more so with that type of lopsided environment, what was once love and care for each other became their own vacuum of experiences and needs, without communicating any of it to each other or finding common ground. Once Rina finds purpose and fulfillment working with the FBI during the communism-focused period of time, she begins to find herself and begins to be honest at the very end with her husband to potentially rebuild their relationship under new rules.
The author did a great job at highlighting much of the common but not always talked about struggle of mothering, how much marriages suffer when either spouse looks after their own ambitions rather than giving and empathizing with each other, and how women need each other and each others’ compassion instead of judgement, while not being afraid to be honest about our struggles.
Thank you to Netgalley for the advanced copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.