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The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy by Lola Phoenix
3.75
I liked the way this book was written a lot. It had short chapters with clear themes. My copy has a bunch of post-its sticking to the pages because it had so many parts that spoke to.me and reflected my experience with wanting polyamory (for years) but panicking completely when it happened. Since one of my biggest concerns is not really being polyamorous because I'm so scared and so changed in behaviour in general, this book gave me a lot of safety that my anxiety is getting the best of me and I can find ways to work through it. Lola has a way to seem very close and calls out any kind of privilege and poly-bragging.
While I really liked the shortness of the chapters, some contents to me seemed a bit rushed or would habe wished for examples or longer explanations. Of course I can do further reading, but some passages felt like they lit a spark in me but could have used just a few more words to light a little fire of an aha-moment. Also I felt very glad the author included personal experiences, but sometimes felt that those descriptions took some circles and repition towards the end of the book. While individial insights are helpful, when it piled a bit more I felt like it was too personal to serve me.
I think this book really was a helpful guide for me, in a way no other books before were. I am greatful and look towards change while being anxious with more hope.
While I really liked the shortness of the chapters, some contents to me seemed a bit rushed or would habe wished for examples or longer explanations. Of course I can do further reading, but some passages felt like they lit a spark in me but could have used just a few more words to light a little fire of an aha-moment. Also I felt very glad the author included personal experiences, but sometimes felt that those descriptions took some circles and repition towards the end of the book. While individial insights are helpful, when it piled a bit more I felt like it was too personal to serve me.
I think this book really was a helpful guide for me, in a way no other books before were. I am greatful and look towards change while being anxious with more hope.