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A review by elisa_pretty
Setting Boundaries by Rebecca Ray
5.0
I loved this book (and lately I didn’t like self-help books that much).
This one was an easy and enlightening read for me. I loved the way she writes, as well as the way she tried to empower us in setting boundaries and respect ourselves. I found myself in few situations and I feel more happy an confident in what I believe, who I am, and what I want in life! As I always believe, life is one and our to own, no one else can design our path or try. If someone really love us and accept us, they have to do it respecting also our choices and boundaries, otherwise I don’t need you in my life.
The book covers aspects of how sometimes we are controlled by others without noticing it or without paying attention to it and how to take back that control without malice. Because we come first and we need to be happy! If someone is not ok with our boundaries and they feel hurt somehow by that, it’s their problem to deal with, not ours.
And sometimes is ok to readjust our boundaries and with that our relationship with some people.
We are all human, we all change, and it’s ok to loose people on the way that no longer align with our way to live, think, and are, especially if they don’t respect out person.
One of the best quotes in the book, which sums up Dr Ray’s argument, is by Behavioural Scientist Steve Maraboli, which states “If you’re offended by my boundaries, then you’re probably one of the reasons I need them.”
Setting Boundaries is, in my personal opinion, one of the most useful and important self-help books on the market. While the focus of self-improvement is often on how to recognise one’s own failings, Dr Ray has flipped the argument to focus on how we liaise with the negative external influences on our life. It’s a lesson in empathy and communication as much as it’s a lesson in being assertive.
I really want to read other books from her now!
Thanks
This one was an easy and enlightening read for me. I loved the way she writes, as well as the way she tried to empower us in setting boundaries and respect ourselves. I found myself in few situations and I feel more happy an confident in what I believe, who I am, and what I want in life! As I always believe, life is one and our to own, no one else can design our path or try. If someone really love us and accept us, they have to do it respecting also our choices and boundaries, otherwise I don’t need you in my life.
The book covers aspects of how sometimes we are controlled by others without noticing it or without paying attention to it and how to take back that control without malice. Because we come first and we need to be happy! If someone is not ok with our boundaries and they feel hurt somehow by that, it’s their problem to deal with, not ours.
And sometimes is ok to readjust our boundaries and with that our relationship with some people.
We are all human, we all change, and it’s ok to loose people on the way that no longer align with our way to live, think, and are, especially if they don’t respect out person.
One of the best quotes in the book, which sums up Dr Ray’s argument, is by Behavioural Scientist Steve Maraboli, which states “If you’re offended by my boundaries, then you’re probably one of the reasons I need them.”
Setting Boundaries is, in my personal opinion, one of the most useful and important self-help books on the market. While the focus of self-improvement is often on how to recognise one’s own failings, Dr Ray has flipped the argument to focus on how we liaise with the negative external influences on our life. It’s a lesson in empathy and communication as much as it’s a lesson in being assertive.
I really want to read other books from her now!
Thanks