A review by jonobate
Sex from Scratch: Making Your Own Relationship Rules by Sarah Mirk
2.0
I really wanted to like this book, but I found a lot of the suggestions on how to approach non-monogamy in particular to be unhelpful, even toxic. For example we know by now that veto power does more harm than good, and yet it’s described here positively as a way to protect a couple’s relationship - at the expense, of course, of everyone else they’re involved with.
Instead of a book of brief overviews of topics that the author has interest in but takes no firm position on, I’d recommend that you pick up more focused books written by people who have delved deeply into the topic in question and are better placed to say what works and what doesn’t.
Instead of a book of brief overviews of topics that the author has interest in but takes no firm position on, I’d recommend that you pick up more focused books written by people who have delved deeply into the topic in question and are better placed to say what works and what doesn’t.