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A review by cari1268
Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility by Jim Fay, Foster Cline
4.0
Overall, I liked most aspects of "Parenting With Love and Logic." I liked the idea of giving children more freedom to choose. I agree that the consequences of making mistakes and failing when we're younger cost less than when we're older. Although I did think that some of the examples were a little extreme (i.e. waiting until the family dog is malnourished and it's ribs are showing before doing something about it). Also, as a wife of a school teacher, I'm not too sure about letting the school provide all of the consequences for bad students. I know my husband doesn't appreciate parents who are like that!
I gave the book three stars because even after reading it, I'm not sure how well I can implement the parenting strategies. This might be my own personal failings or because of the fact that my only child is just a baby and too young to practice on. The giving the child two choices seems simple enough but the authors lost me when they started talking about providing consequences later for bad behavior without telling the kids about them until the consequences happen. See, doesn't that sound confusing? I'm new at this parenting thing, but I can see myself forgetting to provide consequences if I don't do it right away. This seems like a parenting strategy that would take years to get good at. But maybe that's just the normal time frame to become a good parent anyway. Either way, I left this book feeling very terrified for my son to grow up and like I'll forget everything that I learned about in a few months. I will most likely read, "Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood" in a couple of years when my son is a little bit older as a refresher course.
**I'm changing my rating after babysitting my friends' kids. The implementation isn't nearly as hard as I thought it would be. I found myself effortlessly using this parenting strategy. I loved being able to emphathize with the kids and letting the consequences be the bad guys. I'm still not sure on how I'll do on waiting to give consequences. Overall, I plan on incorporating most of this method into my parenting strategy.
I gave the book three stars because even after reading it, I'm not sure how well I can implement the parenting strategies. This might be my own personal failings or because of the fact that my only child is just a baby and too young to practice on. The giving the child two choices seems simple enough but the authors lost me when they started talking about providing consequences later for bad behavior without telling the kids about them until the consequences happen. See, doesn't that sound confusing? I'm new at this parenting thing, but I can see myself forgetting to provide consequences if I don't do it right away. This seems like a parenting strategy that would take years to get good at. But maybe that's just the normal time frame to become a good parent anyway. Either way, I left this book feeling very terrified for my son to grow up and like I'll forget everything that I learned about in a few months. I will most likely read, "Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood" in a couple of years when my son is a little bit older as a refresher course.
**I'm changing my rating after babysitting my friends' kids. The implementation isn't nearly as hard as I thought it would be. I found myself effortlessly using this parenting strategy. I loved being able to emphathize with the kids and letting the consequences be the bad guys. I'm still not sure on how I'll do on waiting to give consequences. Overall, I plan on incorporating most of this method into my parenting strategy.