A review by lovelymisanthrope
The School for Good Mothers by Jessamine Chan

challenging dark emotional reflective sad tense fast-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? N/A
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

I stumbled across this book at Barnes & Noble, and the summary on the back really drew me in.
"The School for Good Mothers" is an exploration of motherhood through a near-futuristic, dystopian lens. Frida Liu is deeply struggling with her life. Being the daughter of Chinese immigrants has caused her to constantly feel like she is living in a shadow in which she is never good enough. After a particularly bad day, Frida leaves her toddler daughter alone at home while she runs to the office. But her quick errand turns into hours away, and when she returns home, she is met by police who are taking her daughter away from her. After a difficult trial, Frida decides to take a deal to attend a school for good mothers for one year, so she can learn how to be better and prove she will never leave her daughter again.
This book made me angry in all of the right ways. Motherhood is no easy task, and it seems like no matter what choice a mother makes, she receives endless criticism and feedback about how she can do better. Even the mothers who "do it all" are imperfect and need to do more. Frida obviously makes an unmistakably poor choice by leaving her toddler daughter alone, but what drove her to that point was equally infuriating. Frida does not have any support in her life, and she is tired, overworked, and desperately needs help. It is undeniable she should not have left her daughter alone, but I think it is equally important to see how much Frida immediately regretted it and did EVERYTHING within her power to make the situation right. Should one mistake forever mark Frida as a bad mother?
The inherit sexism that surrounds parenthood is explored exceptionally well in this book. Mothers are forever held to unattainable standards, but fathers are forever applauded for doing the bare minimum. The school for good mothers has a counterpart, a school for good fathers, and the reader learns that these schools are not created equally. The fathers have a much easier time with the curriculum and their crimes against their children are treated completely differently. Fathers are pretty much always encouraged to go back into their children's lives following graduation from the program, however the mothers seem to be set up to fail and lose their children forever.
I LOVED this book, and I look forward to reading more from Jessamine Chan in the future. 

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