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A review by fran_bielar
Untamed by Glennon Doyle
3.0
So at first i was a bit taken aback by the whole cheetah thing. And then we jumped into the spiritual hide in your closet during a board meeting to find your knowing and i felt like we look a serious left turn. BUT i do think there were some good hidden gems and the overall message of the book i can get behind. After learning her story i can see the motivation behind this book so i can appreciate where her story comes from.
A few bookmarks:
1) “i thought pain was for pushing down and not feeling. I thought when life got hard it was a signal that i had screwed up somehow and not just a part of life” ouch, i feel attacked. Even today i feel this way so im into the idea of changing that
2) “right now you are choosing between being an obedient daughter or a responsible mother. Choose mother.” As someone who doesn’t speak to one of my biological parents this one definitely hit home. I’ve made this decision because I’m not willing to allow my future family to be impacted the way that I was. The obedient daughter would shut up and put her feelings aside to appease the parent. But in my attempts to be a responsible mother, I am choosing to put my future family first.
3) “we did not fall into this life that we have, we made it” specifically in the context of falling in love and building a life with someone this feels so beautiful and romantic.
The piece i disagree with is the concept of people, specifically women, are put in cages and just live that life without knowing any different and if you life that life it’s because you are caged. I would venture to say it’s okay if that is the life i want. Yes i was raised in a society where women predominantly marry men and have kids and focus on being good mothers. If that is something i want that doesn’t make me caged or an idiot for wanting what i saw around me. I like the idea that everyone can break out of those boxes and shouldn’t feel like the door is closed to other ways of life but just because you want something that is “normal” i don’t think that puts you in a disadvantaged position as a caged animal.
A few bookmarks:
1) “i thought pain was for pushing down and not feeling. I thought when life got hard it was a signal that i had screwed up somehow and not just a part of life” ouch, i feel attacked. Even today i feel this way so im into the idea of changing that
2) “right now you are choosing between being an obedient daughter or a responsible mother. Choose mother.” As someone who doesn’t speak to one of my biological parents this one definitely hit home. I’ve made this decision because I’m not willing to allow my future family to be impacted the way that I was. The obedient daughter would shut up and put her feelings aside to appease the parent. But in my attempts to be a responsible mother, I am choosing to put my future family first.
3) “we did not fall into this life that we have, we made it” specifically in the context of falling in love and building a life with someone this feels so beautiful and romantic.
The piece i disagree with is the concept of people, specifically women, are put in cages and just live that life without knowing any different and if you life that life it’s because you are caged. I would venture to say it’s okay if that is the life i want. Yes i was raised in a society where women predominantly marry men and have kids and focus on being good mothers. If that is something i want that doesn’t make me caged or an idiot for wanting what i saw around me. I like the idea that everyone can break out of those boxes and shouldn’t feel like the door is closed to other ways of life but just because you want something that is “normal” i don’t think that puts you in a disadvantaged position as a caged animal.