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A review by mlkai
Come as You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski
hopeful
informative
reflective
medium-paced
4.0
easy to read women’s* sexuality. definitely keeping some of her points in my brain for awhile.
*i will note the research Nagoski references is not inclusive to trans women and nb folks. since she’s pretty research based, some of the “proof” behind her theories also isn’t trans inclusive. but/and/also i do think the theories can translate to trans folks & think they could benefit from this book. really i think most people could benefit, but this book is especially for people with vulvas and people that have sex with people with vulvas.
pt 1 was my favorite. kind of wish the rest has been truncated but that’s ok.
i liked the interspersed stories of the four women, that really added useful context and examples. although, i often couldnt keep track of who was who or what happened in the story previously. also could not for the life of my remember the different between liking wanting and learning which made her later references frustrating bc i didn’t fully get them.
nitpick/formatting thing: the fact that she didn’t use chicago style annotations drove me BONKERS bc i constantly had to go to the end of the book (only to often see it was just a citation w/o commentary —- i created a system quickly but still annoyed me enough to mention in an online review very few ppl will read 😂)
*i will note the research Nagoski references is not inclusive to trans women and nb folks. since she’s pretty research based, some of the “proof” behind her theories also isn’t trans inclusive. but/and/also i do think the theories can translate to trans folks & think they could benefit from this book. really i think most people could benefit, but this book is especially for people with vulvas and people that have sex with people with vulvas.
pt 1 was my favorite. kind of wish the rest has been truncated but that’s ok.
i liked the interspersed stories of the four women, that really added useful context and examples. although, i often couldnt keep track of who was who or what happened in the story previously. also could not for the life of my remember the different between liking wanting and learning which made her later references frustrating bc i didn’t fully get them.
nitpick/formatting thing: the fact that she didn’t use chicago style annotations drove me BONKERS bc i constantly had to go to the end of the book (only to often see it was just a citation w/o commentary —- i created a system quickly but still annoyed me enough to mention in an online review very few ppl will read 😂)
Content Warnings
Moderate: Body shaming and Sexual violence
Minor: Toxic relationship and Stalking