A review by nico2022
Calling in the One: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life by Katherine Woodward Thomas
2.0
My therapist recommended this book to me after I'd been seeing her for about 6 months, and I trusted her suggestion since we'd had a lot of success in our sessions together. Unfortunately, all this book has done is make me worry about whether I should be trusting my therapist's perspective.
I was hopeful that despite the terrible title, the text would be more sophisticated. Instead, every trite quote you can imagine made an appearance and I think I pulled a muscle with how hard I rolled my eyes in almost every chapter. More seriously, the encouragement of a mindset of "your soulmate is on his/her way" is extremely dangerous in my mind, and part of the reason I harbor a lot of resentment toward Christian courting culture.
The author has a serious lack of logic in what she professes as clear truth, turning instead to a mixed bag of self-help gurus, religious leaders and texts, energy healers, personal experience and feelings, universalism (think "The Secret"), and out-of-context author quotes to make her points. (It's a personal pet peeve of mine when people ask you to suspend agnosticism to try on their perspective, which relies entirely upon accepting and surrendering to a higher power.)
This book might provide the kind of self-awareness and reflection many people can't find on their own (through exercises that ultimately just repeat themselves), but I have a very difficult time putting much stock in it at all. For me, it bordered on intellectually offensive and spiritually immature. Save yourself some time and instead just practice deep breathing / meditation and see a well-trained psychotherapist.
I was hopeful that despite the terrible title, the text would be more sophisticated. Instead, every trite quote you can imagine made an appearance and I think I pulled a muscle with how hard I rolled my eyes in almost every chapter. More seriously, the encouragement of a mindset of "your soulmate is on his/her way" is extremely dangerous in my mind, and part of the reason I harbor a lot of resentment toward Christian courting culture.
The author has a serious lack of logic in what she professes as clear truth, turning instead to a mixed bag of self-help gurus, religious leaders and texts, energy healers, personal experience and feelings, universalism (think "The Secret"), and out-of-context author quotes to make her points. (It's a personal pet peeve of mine when people ask you to suspend agnosticism to try on their perspective, which relies entirely upon accepting and surrendering to a higher power.)
This book might provide the kind of self-awareness and reflection many people can't find on their own (through exercises that ultimately just repeat themselves), but I have a very difficult time putting much stock in it at all. For me, it bordered on intellectually offensive and spiritually immature. Save yourself some time and instead just practice deep breathing / meditation and see a well-trained psychotherapist.