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A review by rissaoffline
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson
3.0
I started this book two years ago and finally finished the last few chapters now, in 2024. I think it was more helpful at the beginning, though I'm pretty skeptical of the internalizer/externalizer dichotomy the book proposes and shifts blame between. Human behavior isn't that binary.
Definitely one of those grain of salt books, especially if you are healed enough that most of this book feels like old news or if you're aware of more literature and research in developmental trauma/neglect (or even developmental neurobiology). Or maybe my shitty childhood was beyond the scope of simply "distant, rejecting, or self-involved parents." There's still some good material and exercises in here, but some require having had peace in a childhood at all - less useful if your developmental abuse and neglect started before your living memory. I guess that's why we have EMDR and IFS and other somatic therapies and relational healing models.
It's a good starter book to knock you into awareness if you're living deeply in denial - that's its scope, and it does that well.
Definitely one of those grain of salt books, especially if you are healed enough that most of this book feels like old news or if you're aware of more literature and research in developmental trauma/neglect (or even developmental neurobiology). Or maybe my shitty childhood was beyond the scope of simply "distant, rejecting, or self-involved parents." There's still some good material and exercises in here, but some require having had peace in a childhood at all - less useful if your developmental abuse and neglect started before your living memory. I guess that's why we have EMDR and IFS and other somatic therapies and relational healing models.
It's a good starter book to knock you into awareness if you're living deeply in denial - that's its scope, and it does that well.