A review by parboiledlentils
The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World by Alan Downs

While there were some good tidbits of wisdom, I didn't fully buy into the book. It seemed to blanket the entire gay community into one experience. "We feel," "we believe," etc. While he discusses ambivalence and complexity as an important realization in life, he doesn't practice that in his writing. Shame in gay men is such a complex issue. There's no one right answer.