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A review by antivancrowe
The Man They Wanted Me to Be: Toxic Masculinity and a Crisis of Our Own Making by Jared Yates Sexton
5.0
Writing 4| Research 5| Understandability 5|Enjoyability 4
Overall Rating: 4.5
The Man They Wanted Me to Be was an exploration of the male point of view at Toxic Masculinity which to be honest I haven't seen too much.
I studied Gender in College so a lot of the stuff wasn't anything really new to me.
Sexton tells us about Toxic Masculinity in a lot of ancedotes, except for the last two chapters.
There was this one chapter about his Dad and his Mom that reminded me of something similair. His Dad tried to kidnap him from his Mom and his mom pounded on the vehicle. The Cops were called and they did nothing, they told Dad to stop the kidnapping attempts and told mom to not damage vehicles. ....What? No one was arrested(the dad should have gotten arrested.) Mine isn't as dramatic but in the good ole US of A I was about 14 or 15 home alone and I heard a banging on our porch. I cracked open the door terrified and this man ranted that my dog(who never left my yard? I lived in a trailer park so it was lines of trailers in front and behind) was shitting in his yard. I was terrified I called my mother who called the cops. They just said he was drunk so it was okay. What? I was terrified? He was an old white man, so it reminded me of how police are on the side of toxic masculinity.
Sexton talks about how men were just awful to his mother time and time again. The only half way decent man went to jail for drugs.
Sexton does a wonderful job of making sure we know and understand why Toxic Masculinity is bad for men as well as Women. There was talk of Alex Jones and Incels the ideas they held which kind of just made me worry about the world that their are men that think like that.
But I kind of knew that there are views like that.
Overall Rating: 4.5
The Man They Wanted Me to Be was an exploration of the male point of view at Toxic Masculinity which to be honest I haven't seen too much.
I studied Gender in College so a lot of the stuff wasn't anything really new to me.
Sexton tells us about Toxic Masculinity in a lot of ancedotes, except for the last two chapters.
There was this one chapter about his Dad and his Mom that reminded me of something similair. His Dad tried to kidnap him from his Mom and his mom pounded on the vehicle. The Cops were called and they did nothing, they told Dad to stop the kidnapping attempts and told mom to not damage vehicles. ....What? No one was arrested(the dad should have gotten arrested.) Mine isn't as dramatic but in the good ole US of A I was about 14 or 15 home alone and I heard a banging on our porch. I cracked open the door terrified and this man ranted that my dog(who never left my yard? I lived in a trailer park so it was lines of trailers in front and behind) was shitting in his yard. I was terrified I called my mother who called the cops. They just said he was drunk so it was okay. What? I was terrified? He was an old white man, so it reminded me of how police are on the side of toxic masculinity.
Sexton talks about how men were just awful to his mother time and time again. The only half way decent man went to jail for drugs.
Sexton does a wonderful job of making sure we know and understand why Toxic Masculinity is bad for men as well as Women. There was talk of Alex Jones and Incels the ideas they held which kind of just made me worry about the world that their are men that think like that.
But I kind of knew that there are views like that.