A review by angechen
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love, by Amir Levine

4.0

book was made for those with anxious attachment styles (and those with secure ones trying to understand other styles), so for me, it was incredibly validating.

ngl, some of the anxious-avoidant relationship examples sounded emotionally abusive & unacceptable regardless of security, but I suppose the point is to communicate needs early and leave if these needs stay unmet

some fun quotes

“Attachment principles teach us that most people are only as needy as their unmet needs. When their emotional needs are met, and the earlier the better, they usually turn their attention outward. This is sometimes referred to in attachment literature as the “dependency paradox”: The more effectively dependent people are on one another, the more independent and daring they become.”

“When you meet someone new, the probability that they have an avoidant attachment style is high—much higher than their relative size in the population—25 percent. Not only are they recycled back into the dating pool more quickly, but they are not dating one another (at least not for long), nor are they dating secure people, that much because secures are less available. Who are they meeting? That’s right: You and other potential partners with an anxious attachment style.”