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A review by sophiathelemurlover
Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-By-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay in or Get Out of Your Relationship by Mira Kirshenbaum
3.0
My biggest take away was learning what love is. As cliche as it is, it’s not something I could definitively articulate. But Kirchenbaum laid the foundations for me.
That is, love is a feeling based on reality. The problem arises when people are ambivalent about their relationship. Should I stay or should I go? One another reason people struggle with their decision is that they still love their partner. And that’s where emotions take over.
While you may have fallen in love with you partner when you first started dating, that is most likely because in reality, they were loving, respectful, had similar values and goals, etc. Your feelings of love were based on real gestures and acts of love.
However, over time, your partner may have grown too comfortable, showed their true colours, stopped showing you how much they love you. Loving them now does not make sense. You are in love with how they were in the past not the present. Your love for them is a feeling based on your perceived reality, which is giving you a false sense of love.
That is, love is a feeling based on reality. The problem arises when people are ambivalent about their relationship. Should I stay or should I go? One another reason people struggle with their decision is that they still love their partner. And that’s where emotions take over.
While you may have fallen in love with you partner when you first started dating, that is most likely because in reality, they were loving, respectful, had similar values and goals, etc. Your feelings of love were based on real gestures and acts of love.
However, over time, your partner may have grown too comfortable, showed their true colours, stopped showing you how much they love you. Loving them now does not make sense. You are in love with how they were in the past not the present. Your love for them is a feeling based on your perceived reality, which is giving you a false sense of love.