A review by mjoyner
Technical Virgin: How Far is Too Far? by Hayley DiMarco

1.0

I am honestly pretty scared that so many young women have read this book. I agree with the principles it puts forth - principles of modesty and being careful in relationships - but the manner in which the author's beliefs are delivered is incredibly hurtful. Hayley DiMarco harshly admonishes women who have sexually screwed up in some manner. She teaches that, if you lose your virginity (technical or otherwise), you lose your value. That should NOT be the way we teach our sisters and daughters the importance of abstinence. The most effective teaching is not fear-based but love-inspired (after all, the point of remaining abstinent isn't so much to avoid going to hell, the point is to please God). Teach young women that they will be so much more if they guard themselves sexually, teach them that they are loved and accepted and forgiven even if they make a mistake (because people do make mistakes). Be firm and unwavering, yes, but always with love.