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A review by gladiolus17
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber, Elaine Mazlish
emotional
funny
informative
reflective
sad
medium-paced
4.5
Fabulously informative. I don’t have kids yet, but this gives me an idea on how to manage them.
I tried to describe one of my boyfriend’s achievements rather than give him an evaluative compliment. It worked, even on an adult! Also, I find it goes a lot better when I validate his feelings first than rather jump straight into giving advice when things are tough on him.
The one problem is that the book is outdated when it comes to feeding kids. It gets right that kids should have autonomy when eating, but no, you should not hide sweets or keep sweets out of the house so they won’t eat them. The problem is that they view sweets as ‘better’ than other foods, so that’s why they crave it. They need to learn that all foods are equal and take it from an intuitive eating perspective. Take a look at Ellyn Satter’s Division of Responsibility for an in-depth look.
I tried to describe one of my boyfriend’s achievements rather than give him an evaluative compliment. It worked, even on an adult! Also, I find it goes a lot better when I validate his feelings first than rather jump straight into giving advice when things are tough on him.
The one problem is that the book is outdated when it comes to feeding kids. It gets right that kids should have autonomy when eating, but no, you should not hide sweets or keep sweets out of the house so they won’t eat them. The problem is that they view sweets as ‘better’ than other foods, so that’s why they crave it. They need to learn that all foods are equal and take it from an intuitive eating perspective. Take a look at Ellyn Satter’s Division of Responsibility for an in-depth look.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Fatphobia