A review by babettes
Either/Or, by Elif Batuman

emotional funny reflective medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

completely blew me away. Watching Selin's growth, how the books she reads and the movies she watches, in addition to her actual living life, move the story is so well done. I relate to a lot to her in the beginning. Her staunch protection of her flawed mother mirrors my sentiments towards my father. The way she still is obsessed with someone  and tries to create a narrative out of those feelings. However in the last quarter of the book we lose our similarities. She, pushed by the other women in her life all getting into relationships, seeks out the uncomfortable companionship of men. I understand that part of what the text is trying to get at that the decisions she is making aren't good ones, but it's still hard to watch. But that just is a testament to the greatness of the character. Selin is my friend, I don't want her to be forced to do anal using sunscreen as lube! 
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