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A review by aiyaivy
Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov
2.0
I see how this book speaks to real-life experiences, I do. But the advice feels outdated and catered to certain male preferences (specifically, the ones that are probably fairly traditional/conservative and want a specific type of fantasy woman).
In my opinion, if you need all these rules and principles to learn how to be a "bitch" - you might be doing the exact opposite of what this book is saying. The key messages that I got from this read are to not cave into another person's wishes or needs if it poses an inconvenience to yourself, to have your own opinions, to be independent (emotionally, socially, and financially), and to know how to make yourself someone worthwhile to pursue. However, I can't help but disagree that if you're putting in this much effort to abide by these rules of holding out/not being a tease/leaving things mysterious to keep him "hooked," you are performing....and by performing, you're probably attracting people who aren't meant for you or shitty people who fall into these predictable male preferences.
Wouldn't that be the exact opposite of staying true to yourself and being a "bitch"?
It was entertaining reading through the reasons and principles of attraction but I didn't take away anything tangible or implementable. I just have to say: ladies - just do you! If a man loses respect for you for showing interest in him or takes you for granted for XYZ reason, he's not the one. You shouldn't have to think of all these strategies and rules to be loved or to love!!
In my opinion, if you need all these rules and principles to learn how to be a "bitch" - you might be doing the exact opposite of what this book is saying. The key messages that I got from this read are to not cave into another person's wishes or needs if it poses an inconvenience to yourself, to have your own opinions, to be independent (emotionally, socially, and financially), and to know how to make yourself someone worthwhile to pursue. However, I can't help but disagree that if you're putting in this much effort to abide by these rules of holding out/not being a tease/leaving things mysterious to keep him "hooked," you are performing....and by performing, you're probably attracting people who aren't meant for you or shitty people who fall into these predictable male preferences.
Wouldn't that be the exact opposite of staying true to yourself and being a "bitch"?
It was entertaining reading through the reasons and principles of attraction but I didn't take away anything tangible or implementable. I just have to say: ladies - just do you! If a man loses respect for you for showing interest in him or takes you for granted for XYZ reason, he's not the one. You shouldn't have to think of all these strategies and rules to be loved or to love!!