A review by readingthroughthelists
Try Softer by Aundi Kolber

challenging hopeful informative reflective medium-paced

4.0

I read Try Softer at the recommendation of my therapist, and my expectations were low. My mileage with self-help psychology books varies; I hoped for a helpful suggestion here and there on managing my anxiety, but I wasn’t expecting anything substantial. 

To my surprise, Try Softer was actually very helpful in getting to the root cause of much of my anxiety (my anxious-ambivalent attachment style) and for understanding its physical manifestations. The concept of attachment styles, the window of tolerance, and an embodied approach to life are things I have already been attempting to integrate into my life and in the midst of my anxiety, but it was helpful to see them integrated and explained here. 

The book is better at suggesting causes rather than cures, but knowing why you are really feeling anxious/overwhelmed/sick is usually half the battle anyway, and I think some of the grounding exercises will be helpful going forward. 
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