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A review by alexiconic
Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski
hopeful
informative
inspiring
medium-paced
4.5
what a great, loving, easy-to-read book. it’s a great clarification of how sex works for many people, especially but definitely not just women. its funny, filled with experience (personal and professional) and reassurance that, whatever your body does, unless you are in pain, you’re probably really normal.
i do wish there was a little bit more attention towards other genders (although that may be another book entirely), as i’m still not clear on why in general women experience responsive desire to a larger extent than others. perhaps the details on that are still out.
and i wish there was a bit more development on to how to move on from realizing that - bluntly - you are normal and feeling anger because of the persistent, incorrect and harmful messages around us. like, what do you do with that anger, sadness? how exactly can you process it without becoming stuck in it?
but those are two small things in an otherwise very accessible and well-written book.
i do wish there was a little bit more attention towards other genders (although that may be another book entirely), as i’m still not clear on why in general women experience responsive desire to a larger extent than others. perhaps the details on that are still out.
and i wish there was a bit more development on to how to move on from realizing that - bluntly - you are normal and feeling anger because of the persistent, incorrect and harmful messages around us. like, what do you do with that anger, sadness? how exactly can you process it without becoming stuck in it?
but those are two small things in an otherwise very accessible and well-written book.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Body shaming, Misogyny, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Medical content, and Alcohol